We started ministering to mid-singles because they were underserved. Mid-singles are unique. Their needs are fundamentally different from those of most married and settled people. One of the biggest ways mid-singles are different comes down to trauma. Mid-singles and and even former mid-singles who have remarried have almost all experienced major losses, disappointments, and pain […]

We all know singles in their late 20s, 30s, 40s or beyond who would like to be married but haven’t yet been blessed with the opportunity. We’ve also known singles who have had the opportunity to marry but things didn’t go as planned and it resulted in an unexpected marital loss through the untimely death […]

After dating on and off for several months, I (Jeff) wanted a more committed relationship than Cathy felt ready for so she decided to discontinue dating me. Not surprisingly, I was hurt and disappointed and did not handle the situation as well as I could have. However, after a few months without contact, I began […]

At a recent family reunion, Jeff's father asked each of his children and their spouses to share their testimonies. After we and his siblings had shared, Jeff's oldest son offered to share his testimony. He is the oldest grandchild and looked up to by all the younger grandkids. The pre-teens followed him around all weekend, […]

There are plenty of relationships that begin with the premise of hating former companions, that hate becomes their new bond. Some continue in that pattern with a steady diet of negative comments about those same formers. How does that serve the couple? Is that the kind of relationship you want? Through our own experience, we […]

Dating and marriage are a continual process of a man and a woman getting to know each other. While each individual is unique and special, men and women have complimentary characteristics that can bless a relationship. While no one is 100% stereotypically male or female, it is important to recognize and understand general tendencies in […]

We were often dismayed during our mid-single years when we heard criticism of people as a "player” or “serial dater." These terms were often applied to dating partners who were not ready to be exclusive after only a few dates or even a single encounter. We heard many singles say "I only date one person […]

This month we interviewed Julie Lee, author of "I See You: How Connection and Compassion Save Lives." In the movie Avatar, the main character, Jake Sully, learns the phrase "I see you" from Neytiri, his love interest among the Na'vi people on the planet Pandora. To the Na'vi, "I see you" means more than noticing. […]

None of us has the choice to stop breathing or stop eating food. Sooner or later, stopping those activities would kill us. Both of those things are needs. If you need something, you cannot choose it because there is no other reasonable choice. In relationships, many of us want to be needed so our partners […]