17th century English poet Robert Herrick penned these immortal words about a very mortal subject:  Gather ye rose-buds while ye may, Old Time is still a-flying; And this same flower that smiles today Tomorrow will be dying. The glorious lamp of heaven, the sun, The higher he’s a-getting, The sooner will his race be run, […]

We were asked to give the keynote address for the Twin Falls Singles Conference last weekend (7/22/23). The theme for that conference was "Victory in Christ" so that has been on our mind for the past few months. It was wonderful to associate with and get to know the many single adults ages 30+ who […]

We have learned recently that codependency (excessive reliance on relationships) tends to be learned in childhood and passed from one generation to the next. Yet we know that we can break free from codependent patterns, just as we can move beyond relationship failures and start learning from a successful new companionship. Generational shifting requires courage […]

There are so many wonderful things we can do to heal from trauma and thrive after divorce. We believe all sustainable healing that establishes peace in our lives is obtained intentionally and purposefully.  Trauma is essentially the fear stored in your mind and body from previous moments of danger. When our bodies experience something that […]

As we celebrate independence here in America, we invite you to consider emotional independence and how to go about declaring that independence against whatever is depriving you of it. The inability to make a decision on your own can be its own form of tyranny. Fear that you lack the ability to support yourself financially […]

We've heard so many single adults say "I hate dating." Why is that? Perhaps there are as many answers as there are people. But I think they all come down to something deep in our nature that dislikes being judged. And dating gives you more opportunities to be judged than almost anything else. When we […]

Now is a confusing time to be a man. In this day and age, a father that tries to be the head of the house is looked upon as a misogynist dinosaur. On the other hand, a father who does not try to be the head of the house is looked upon as weak and […]

It takes a lot of courage to blend a family. Each blended family is unique and has varying challenges but every blended family requires a lot of adjusting for everyone involved. Often divorced parents feel guilty about what the divorce has done to their children, and they feel their guilt magnified by putting their children […]

We recently attended the sealing of a remarried LILY couple with a blended family of 9 children. It hasn't been an easy road for them, but they say it IS worth it. Building a new marriage relationship later in life comes with complications. Co-parenting with former spouses, dealing with the trauma and reactions of your […]