Melanie Martinez’s music video LEECHES racked up over a million views in just 24 hours—and for good reason. Beneath its haunting visuals and eerie tone lies a message we all need to hear: sometimes, what’s draining us isn’t just them—it’s us, too. The song uses the metaphor of leeches to explore how toxic forces creep into our minds, behaviors, and relationships, often unnoticed, until we feel completely defeated.
Toxic thoughts are often the first leeches to take hold, and yet we often don't even see them for what they are. They show up as self-doubt, shame, or fear—quiet lies we’ve believed since childhood. From there, toxic behaviors follow: the habits we form in survival mode that sabotage our health, joy, and relationships. And finally, we may allow toxic people to be in our lives—people who feed off the energy we give, leaving us empty. As Martinez sings, “They eat off the table that you set, so you starve.”
LEECHES is more than a song—it’s a mirror. We invite you to first examine your internal mental leeches and your external behavioral leeches, because change starts from the inside-out. Then evaluate your relationships to determine who may be sucking you dry. Is it possible that we have more power than we think we do to shift our minds, change our behaviors, and release relationships that don't serve us? We believe that we do!
Maybe, just maybe, this unsettling music video is the wake-up call we’ve been waiting for. Healing begins with self awareness and purposeful paradigm shifts. As single life and relationship coaches we are here to help you break free of negative patterns that are keeping you stuck. If you are ready to deal with the leeches in your life, schedule a free consultation and we'll build a customized roadmap for you to actively and intentionally create the life and relationships you desire.
Melanie Martinez Knew We Needed This. Let's Talk About Leeches!
DESCRIPTION: Step into the surreal and unsettling world of LEECHES—Melanie Martinez’s haunting music video that’s equal parts art and emotional exorcism. With dreamlike visuals and piercing lyrics, Martinez exposes the hidden parasites that drain us: toxic thoughts, destructive behaviors, and the people we let too close. It’s weird, it’s beautiful, it’s deeply relatable—and it might just leave you thinking about your own inner leeches. Watch it once, and you won’t forget it.
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