There is a lot of discussion on this subject in "Intentional Courtship," which we will be releasing in a couple of weeks. Let me say, for the record, that the first two times I tried to message Cathy on Facebook, she didn't respond. The third time, she did and we had a good conversation. There […]
As many of you know, Cathy and I both had brief second marriages following lengthy first marriages. In one case, the prior marriage was to someone who stonewalled (simply shut down and refused to talk about anything difficult or stressful). This is one of the Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse." After that kind […]
In Lehi's dream we are taught of a "strait and narrow path" representing the way to salvation. (1 Nephi 8:20.) I always assumed that "strait" meant direct--like a straight line. This weekend I learned something new. At the adult session of our stake conference this weekend, our stake president, Brian Tate, spoke about the biblical […]
Two weeks ago, on Saturday 10/9/21, I (Cathy) was in a car crash. We were SO grateful to be attending church together the very next day (as indicated in the featured photograph)! There is an "illusion of control" in driving and in dating, especially if you've never been in an accident or experienced a serious […]
In this short video clip, Dr. John Gottman says he is asked this question all the time, and "the number one thing people fight about is nothing." He uses the example of the TV remote control, which ends up being a symbol of control in the relationship. The point is, of course, that most of […]
Cathy Butler Teichert and I started the Love In Later Years Facebook Group soon after we started writing "Intentional Courtship: A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, and Pairing up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints." We will be releasing this book in November in both print and Kindle formats. Some of you […]
I recently saw an episode of Seinfeld where Elaine decides to befriend George's fiancée, Susan. Kramer warned Jerry that their circle of mid-single friends was "George's sanctuary," and that inviting Susan into that space would cause worlds to collide and blow everything up. Kramer's words proved prescient when George found out. He says there are […]
My wise cousin, Violet Rose Clift, wrote the very vulnerable essay below, about how her earthly father and Heavenly Father sustained her in the most painful moment of her life--and since then. It was a moment when she doubted whether God cared for her at all. Looking back, she can see that God was there. […]
Cathy and I recently presented at the Fall Conference of the Foundation for Family Life of Utah. While there, we met a man on the lunch-time panel who had spent most of his life in business. He told us that the secret to successful selling is the same as the secret to successful dating. "Make […]
