April 25, 2023
LILY Letter 107: How Do You Handle Rejection?

From the first time in adolescence when we start expressing our interest in the opposite sex, we start down a road of dealing with romantic rejection -- sometimes for the rest of our lives! For many of us, it will be decades until we find a companion that we mutually choose for the long haul. […]

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December 22, 2021
OF DISAPPOINTMENT AND PAIN

Have you ever stood over the crib and watched your young child sleeping and felt overwhelming love wash over you, only to be replaced by the gripping fear, "What if something happens to him/her?" And that thought steals your happiness and peace in a moment that might be one of unadulterated joy. Brene Brown used […]

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December 10, 2021
ABOUT CONDESCENSION

A few days ago, I made a post about how it is important not to censor or shame our partners in public. Today, I came across this post in "The UnWed Community" (link below) where the author wrote about seeing a conversation in a supermarket over milk where the wife said to her husband, "no, […]

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September 20, 2021
EXPECTATIONS AND RELATIONSHIPS

When I first met my step-kids' dad, I asked him his parenting philosophy and he said, "expectations." I think many if not most parents would say the same. That was also the answer my dad gave to the same question. (By the way, I consider both of these men pretty good fathers in many ways.) […]

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July 27, 2021
LILY Letter 16: Risks Worth Taking

You cannot find love without risk. This is a fundamental law of nature. Ultimately, the games we play in dating are all attempts to violate this law. You might ask your friend to talk to the person and see if they can tease out a revelation about that person’s feelings for you, without telling the […]

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June 25, 2021
LILY Pod 17: Self Image

The mid-single community is made up of unique and diverse men and women with interesting life stories. However, we have observed at least one thing that almost all mid-singles have in common. They are survivors. Virtually every mid-single we have known has a story of profound loss—whether it is the passing of a beloved spouse, […]

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