November 30, 2023
LILY Letter 138: About Time

In teaching time management, Stephen Covey and Hyrum Smith taught four divisions for how we might categorize uses of our time: 1. Urgent and important 2. Important but not urgent 3. Urgent but not important, and 4. Not urgent and not important Essentially, where most people get confused and waste their time is between Quadrants […]

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November 9, 2023
LILY Letter 135: Thanking God in Advance

As we enter the month of Thanksgiving and giving thanks, we felt inspired to share something we have learned that strengthens faith and increases our capacity for gratitude at the same time. We invite you to practice the art of "Thanking God in Advance." If you've never heard of such a thing or tried it […]

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October 26, 2023
LILY Letter 133: The Recipe for Remarriage

Remarriage is typically preceded by a process of relationship loss recovery, reentering the dating world, choosing to commit to a new person and ultimately create a new family and a new life. So what's the recipe? If you have consumed much of the material we produce at LILY, you know we aren't huge fans of […]

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August 22, 2023
LILY Letter 124: The Gift of Agency

Have you ever thought about the word "agency"? Would you be surprised to know that it does not appear anywhere in the Bible? King James ascended to the throne of England in 1603 and the King James version of the Bible was published in 1611. The word agency did not appear in the English language […]

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August 1, 2023
LILY Letter 121: To Make Much of Time

17th century English poet Robert Herrick penned these immortal words about a very mortal subject:  Gather ye rose-buds while ye may, Old Time is still a-flying; And this same flower that smiles today Tomorrow will be dying. The glorious lamp of heaven, the sun, The higher he’s a-getting, The sooner will his race be run, […]

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January 10, 2023
LILY Letter 92: Essential Healing for Successful Dating

Many people say time heals all wounds. We say bunk! Passively waiting for a period of time without any concentration on growth isn't going to heal you at all. Jeff has a friend who was divorced two years prior to Jeff's divorce. He has been single for approximately 12 years and is still telling his […]

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June 20, 2022
ABOUT MID-SINGLE EXHAUSTION

My first divorce exhausted me in mind, body, and spirit. I felt like I had just been kicked in the stomach all the time for about 4 years. I felt so much anxiety about all of the life changes occasioned by divorce that I couldn't even open my mail at certain times. I would think, […]

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June 7, 2022
LILY Letter 61: Maturing Past Need-Based Relationships

None of us has the choice to stop breathing or stop eating food. Sooner or later, stopping those activities would kill us. Both of those things are needs. If you need something, you cannot choose it because there is no other reasonable choice. In relationships, many of us want to be needed so our partners […]

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April 30, 2022
HOW DO I ADJUST TO BEING SINGLE?

A reader of my weekly column in Meridian Magazine recently wrote in asking for "an article regarding the men/women that are left behind after many years of marriage. A stage that many of us have never gone [through] before of being alone." It's a good question. For me, the loneliness actually began before the formal […]

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