February 1, 2024
LILY Letter 147: Communicating Without Contention

We recently had a disagreement where one of us suggested having a deeper conversation about the topic to figure out how we could both have what we wanted. The other said, "How is that possible? How could we both have what we want?" Demanding the solution at the beginning of a discussion suggests that we […]

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October 31, 2023
LILY Letter 134: Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy

This week we have a special holiday treat for you! Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins us for a very special Halloween themed interview on "Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy." She is a relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology who teaches LDS couples and individuals how to strengthen their relationships, overcome relational and […]

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October 19, 2023
LILY Letter 132: What We Focus On Grows

We want start this week's LILY Letter with an observation we have made in ourselves and in our coaching clients. For most, it is easy to see when a child is throwing a fit and causing him or herself more pain. It can also be obvious to see when a friend or family member who, […]

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October 5, 2023
LILY Letter 130: Reflections on Fall & Singles in the Church

As we officially move into autumn, the world is changing. The kids have gone back to school. Summer vacations and adventures are over. The air is starting to cool. Halloween and Thanksgiving are around the corner. Autumn is a time of reflection. We think of the past with a certain amount of nostalgia. When Jeff […]

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August 8, 2023
LILY Letter 122: Stability for Singles After Loss

We write this week's edition of the LILY Letter with some caution and we advise our readers to strike a balance with what we suggest. We are big fans of intentionally healing from relationship loss before dating and developing new relationships. Many people start dating before finding a basic sense of stability as a single […]

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January 24, 2023
LILY Letter 94: Sunshine for 2023

Our first interview this year is with Sunshine Harston, who sheds some incredible light on her own personal experience with divorce, death of a spouse, and now being remarried with a blended family and bonus children. She has referred to some of her greatest losses as "beautiful heartbreak." We have pondered that in the wake […]

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January 10, 2023
LILY Letter 92: Essential Healing for Successful Dating

Many people say time heals all wounds. We say bunk! Passively waiting for a period of time without any concentration on growth isn't going to heal you at all. Jeff has a friend who was divorced two years prior to Jeff's divorce. He has been single for approximately 12 years and is still telling his […]

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January 3, 2023
LILY Letter 91: Happy New Year!

Welcome to 2023! What are your hopes and aspirations? Many people create New Year's resolutions this time of year, perhaps adopting a word to guide them in the coming twelve months and striving to turn over a new leaf in some area of their life. It tends to be a fresh start, full of endless […]

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December 20, 2022
WHEN YOU AREN'T FEELING THE GOOD TIDINGS OF GREAT JOY

When the herald angel told the shepherds that he was bringing them good tidings of great joy which shall be to all people, “all people” includes widows, divorcees, not yet married singles, single parents, parents missing their children, those experiencing financial hardships and betrayal, etc. Good tidings of great joy are for all of us, […]

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