February 29, 2024
LILY Letter 151: The Stewardship to Heal What's Hurting

Sometimes people get divorced hoping to escape the pain that is inside of them. You may be one of these people, or perhaps¬†were married to one. The problem with this thinking is that the pain lives inside of you, so you take it with you wherever you go. It isn't somehow transferred from another person […]

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December 28, 2023
LILY Letter 142: Working with Reality & Making Compromises

Years ago, Jeff was working with a builder to construct a home. As they went through estimates of costs, the time it was going to take to complete, and what the finished product might look like, the builder told Jeff that, in construction, there are three priorities to consider: good, fast, cheap. He said, "Most […]

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December 14, 2023
LILY Letter 140: Up-Level Your Life & Relationships

Our mission as single life & relationship coaches is to help single adults who want to intentionally heal from loss and actively create happy lives with healthy relationships. "Many have told me of doing everything humanly possible to change a negative attitude or rescue a spoiled relationship, only to fail again and again and finally […]

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December 7, 2023
LILY Letter 139: Recovering From Grief & Completing Relationships

According to The Grief Recovery Handbook, grief is defined as: 1. a normal, natural reaction to any loss. 2. conflicting feelings when something familiar changes or ends. While studying this evidence-based method, proven to lessen the pain of any loss, we learn that grief is much broader than previously supposed. Even positive life changes -- […]

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November 16, 2023
LILY Letter 136: Would You Rather Be Right or Happy?

Did you know that each of us has a primitive brain that would rather be right than happy? Enjoy this week's new video on "The Primitive Brain" -- a short but fascinating discussion about how to work with your primitive monkey brain. In this week's podcast, "Would You Rather Be Right or Happy?" we dive […]

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October 19, 2023
LILY Letter 132: What We Focus On Grows

We want start this week's LILY Letter with an observation we have made in ourselves and in our coaching clients. For most, it is easy to see when a child is throwing a fit and causing him or herself more pain. It can also be obvious to see when a friend or family member who, […]

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October 5, 2023
LILY Letter 130: Reflections on Fall & Singles in the Church

As we officially move into autumn, the world is changing. The kids have gone back to school. Summer vacations and adventures are over. The air is starting to cool. Halloween and Thanksgiving are around the corner. Autumn is a time of reflection. We think of the past with a certain amount of nostalgia. When Jeff […]

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September 12, 2023
LILY Letter 127: Running Toward Your Goals

How often have you heard variations of the following statements? "No woman will give me a chance." "There are no real men who will step up in relationships." "There are way more suitable single women then men, so there aren't enough good men to go around." "Women only want a man with good looks and […]

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September 5, 2023
LILY Letter 126: Courting with Confidence

Whether you have loved and lost through the death of a spouse, divorce, or even devastating breakups for those who have not yet married, re-entering the dating world once you've been out of it for a while is daunting for most new singles. Would you like to successfully re-enter the dating scene and confidently navigate […]

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