February 1, 2024
LILY Letter 147: Communicating Without Contention

We recently had a disagreement where one of us suggested having a deeper conversation about the topic to figure out how we could both have what we wanted. The other said, "How is that possible? How could we both have what we want?" Demanding the solution at the beginning of a discussion suggests that we […]

Read More
November 30, 2023
LILY Letter 138: About Time

In teaching time management, Stephen Covey and Hyrum Smith taught four divisions for how we might categorize uses of our time: 1. Urgent and important 2. Important but not urgent 3. Urgent but not important, and 4. Not urgent and not important Essentially, where most people get confused and waste their time is between Quadrants […]

Read More
May 2, 2023
LILY Letter 108: Having Hard Conversations

The kindest thing we can do in a relationship is to speak truth in a compassionate yet assertive way. However, most of us tend to avoid having hard conversations and the discomfort and unknown repercussions that can come with them. The following four scenarios are examples of why we tend to avoid hard conversations and […]

Read More
September 13, 2021
WHAT IF WE COULD JUST BE REAL?

One of the things I most commonly hear from mid-singles is, "I hate dating." Hey, I understand. Getting dressed nice and going out for a lovely meal at a restaurant with an attractive member of the opposite sex must be pure torture! All kidding aside, why don't people like dating? (1) They don't like the […]

Read More
July 21, 2021
SOCIAL MEDIA, JEALOUSY AND DATING

Lately, I have been hearing a lot about people feeling jealous and left out when they see social media posts about their friends off having fun with other friends at events they were not invited to. I knew this was a near obsession among some of our youth, but was surprised to hear that many […]

Read More
Love in Later Years © 2021
Privacy Policy