January 18, 2024
LILY Letter 145: Your Best Chance to Beat the Odds

"I am divorced because my former spouse 'went off the deep end,' 'had an affair,' or 'laid around in his underwear all day looking at porn instead of working.'" Or how about "I picked a better person this time, so things will be fine." How many times have we heard this kind of thinking in the mid-single […]

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December 7, 2023
LILY Letter 139: Recovering From Grief & Completing Relationships

According to The Grief Recovery Handbook, grief is defined as: 1. a normal, natural reaction to any loss. 2. conflicting feelings when something familiar changes or ends. While studying this evidence-based method, proven to lessen the pain of any loss, we learn that grief is much broader than previously supposed. Even positive life changes -- […]

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October 5, 2023
LILY Letter 130: Reflections on Fall & Singles in the Church

As we officially move into autumn, the world is changing. The kids have gone back to school. Summer vacations and adventures are over. The air is starting to cool. Halloween and Thanksgiving are around the corner. Autumn is a time of reflection. We think of the past with a certain amount of nostalgia. When Jeff […]

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April 5, 2022
LILY Letter 52: Are Mid-Singles the Leftovers?

A mid-single person once commented in a singles group: "We are just the leftovers. Get used to it." I've pondered that characterization a lot since then. Is it true? Are mid-singles just the leftovers that nobody else wanted? I have also sometimes heard people refer to mid-singles as an "Island of Misfit Toys." How about […]

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March 8, 2022
IS DATING LIKE CAR SHOPPING?

Last fall, on her way to a huge concert she had spent over a year planning, Cathy was in an accident that totaled her car. Our YouTube guy, Aaron James Karr, graciously loaned us his spare car while we hunted for another one. Finding a new family car was not an easy proposition. Due to […]

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October 14, 2021
LISTEN WITH YOUR HEART

Cathy and I recently presented at the Fall Conference of the Foundation for Family Life of Utah. While there, we met a man on the lunch-time panel who had spent most of his life in business. He told us that the secret to successful selling is the same as the secret to successful dating. "Make […]

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September 21, 2021
LILY Letter 24: Nurturing Seeds of Love

A wise marriage counselor once said to compare the seed of faith in Alma 32 to the seed of love. When we’ve been hurt by a past relationship, it may be difficult to try again. This illustrates how love can grow: “. . . exercise a particle of [love], yea, even if ye can no […]

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May 25, 2021
ABOUT WEDDINGS

On our most recent anniversary, Cathy suggested this hand photo. We are each wearing our "kelibet," which is the Ethiopian word for engagement. In Ethiopia, the first phase of the wedding is the kelibet ceremony where rings are exchanged. At this stage of proceedings, you are engaged to be married, but not actually married yet. […]

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March 9, 2021
THE IMPORTANCE OF CONNECTION

During the worldwide Covid-19 pandemic, “the world came together as people stayed apart.” Every time I see a photo or video footage of people in other countries wearing masks and social distancing, much like we do here in America, I am in awe of how we are all coming together globally in a common effort […]

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