September 12, 2023
LILY Letter 127: Running Toward Your Goals

How often have you heard variations of the following statements? "No woman will give me a chance." "There are no real men who will step up in relationships." "There are way more suitable single women then men, so there aren't enough good men to go around." "Women only want a man with good looks and […]

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May 23, 2023
LILY Letter 111: The Blessing of Abundant Options

God wants us to be abundant. He will bless us with what we need to do His work. He will turn what is not enough into plenty. Jesus fed 5000 people with three loaves and two fishes and had an abundance left over. God is not limited by the scarce resources of the earth.  Joel […]

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May 16, 2023
LILY Letter 110: Honoring Single Mothers

We just celebrated Mother's Day. We believe holidays can last all month. This month, and especially this week, we encourage each of our readers to reach out to their single mom friends to offer appreciation and support in what can be a pretty thankless and heavy stewardship they carry. Whether you are a single mom, […]

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February 14, 2023
LILY Letter 97: Happy Valentine's!

In the movie "Mr. Wrong," the main character, played by Ellen DeGeneres calls Valentine's Day "the lamest day on a single girl's calendar." For many, it is a solemn reminder of what they don't have. It is sometimes an excuse for well-meaning parents to pressure their single adult children to hurry up and get married. […]

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January 31, 2023
LILY Letter 95: The Law of Unintended Consequences

The law of unintended consequences is a frequently observed phenomenon in which any action has results that are not part of the actor's purpose. The superfluous consequences may or may not be foreseeable or even immediately observable and they may be beneficial, harmful, or neutral in their impact. For example, our government printed $4 trillion […]

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December 28, 2021
LILY Letter 38: Mindset for a New Year

We saw this piece of art in New York City and the image really caught our eyes. As life coaches, we teach about thought work and do a fair amount individually and in our marriage, so our attention is often focused on what is happening in the mind. Because our human mind created the life […]

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December 10, 2021
ABOUT CONDESCENSION

A few days ago, I made a post about how it is important not to censor or shame our partners in public. Today, I came across this post in "The UnWed Community" (link below) where the author wrote about seeing a conversation in a supermarket over milk where the wife said to her husband, "no, […]

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October 5, 2021
LILY Letter 26: General Conference Highlights

As we joyfully received inspired messages during General Conference this past weekend (churchofjesuschrist.org), we paid particular attention to how these talks apply to mid-singles and later-married couples. Here we share a few highlights. President Nelson's quote from a previous General Conference was cited in at least three different talks: "The joy we feel has little […]

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July 14, 2021
WHEN YOU ARE IN A DEEP HOLE AT MID-LIFE

I lost a hard fought election in 2006. My business suffered from my time campaigning and then from the Great Recession in 2008-09. I was representing some construction companies that owed me a lot of money. My (then) wife decided she was done in early 2009. I moved back to Utah in late 2010 for […]

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