January 18, 2024
LILY Letter 145: Your Best Chance to Beat the Odds

"I am divorced because my former spouse 'went off the deep end,' 'had an affair,' or 'laid around in his underwear all day looking at porn instead of working.'" Or how about "I picked a better person this time, so things will be fine." How many times have we heard this kind of thinking in the mid-single […]

Read More
July 18, 2023
LILY Letter 119: Generational Shifting Pioneers

We have learned recently that codependency (excessive reliance on relationships) tends to be learned in childhood and passed from one generation to the next. Yet we know that we can break free from codependent patterns, just as we can move beyond relationship failures and start learning from a successful new companionship. Generational shifting requires courage […]

Read More
May 23, 2023
LILY Letter 111: The Blessing of Abundant Options

God wants us to be abundant. He will bless us with what we need to do His work. He will turn what is not enough into plenty. Jesus fed 5000 people with three loaves and two fishes and had an abundance left over. God is not limited by the scarce resources of the earth.  Joel […]

Read More
May 16, 2023
LILY Letter 110: Honoring Single Mothers

We just celebrated Mother's Day. We believe holidays can last all month. This month, and especially this week, we encourage each of our readers to reach out to their single mom friends to offer appreciation and support in what can be a pretty thankless and heavy stewardship they carry. Whether you are a single mom, […]

Read More
February 14, 2023
LILY Letter 97: Happy Valentine's!

In the movie "Mr. Wrong," the main character, played by Ellen DeGeneres calls Valentine's Day "the lamest day on a single girl's calendar." For many, it is a solemn reminder of what they don't have. It is sometimes an excuse for well-meaning parents to pressure their single adult children to hurry up and get married. […]

Read More
November 8, 2022
LILY Letter 83: Giving Your Heart a Chance

In July 2015, the Arbinger Institute published, "The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict. The fundamental premise of the book is that our hearts are either at war with each other or at peace, and that peace in our hearts creates peace in the home, the community, and the world. A heart at […]

Read More
April 12, 2022
LILY Letter 53: Living True to Inspiration

Life offers a plethora of "loud voices" that can deter us from divine guidance and inspiration. By loud voices, I mean naysayers, haters, and those who put us down or lash out because they are hurting. These voices seem loud and can easily drown out all the supportive voices that counter them because our human […]

Read More
September 27, 2021
WHY DO PRE-MARITAL COACHING?

I am different because my former spouse "went off the deep end," "had an affair," or "laid around in his underwear all day looking at porn instead of working." "I picked a better person this time, so things will be fine." How many times have we heard this kind of thinking in the mid-single community? […]

Read More
June 28, 2021
HAVE YOU EVER WORRIED THAT NO ONE WILL LOVE YOU?

This was one of my overriding worries when my marriage to my wife of 15 years ended. I was over 40 and divorced, and didn't think I was particularly good at dating in my 20s. I got married at 26, which was ancient at BYU at that time. Back then, I found talking to a […]

Read More
Love in Later Years © 2021
Privacy Policy