August 30, 2022
LILY Letter 73: The Flip Side of Flop Circumstances

When you are in the middle of what feels like the worst possible thing that could ever happen to you, such as a divorce or the death of an intimate partner, it can be nearly impossible to see beyond painful feelings of despair. We wouldn’t want to take those painful feelings away entirely because the […]

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February 15, 2022
LILY Letter 45: Strong Men

The National Institute of Mental Health cited statistics showing the suicide rate among males was 3.7 times higher than among females. For centuries we have been socialized to believe that men are the stronger sex and exist to protect and provide for women. As Lea Winerman wrote: “Try to imagine the Marlboro man in therapy. […]

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January 25, 2022
LILY Letter 42: Is Misery Easier Than Change?

The suicide rate for people divorcing is more than three times the national average. On the Holmes-Rahe stress index, divorce ranks second only to the death of a spouse as life's most stressful event. It even outranks being sentenced to a prison term or being given a terminal diagnosis. If you find yourself in this […]

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December 27, 2021
WHAT HOPE DO YOU HAVE?

The suicide rate in America increased by 24 percent from 2000-2014. The rate is so high now that it has actually decreased the average life expectancy by 3 years. It is the 7th leading cause of death for men and 14th for women. About 50,000 people, an entire small city, die by suicide every year […]

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September 28, 2021
LILY Letter 25: Finding Meaning in Tragedy

Virtually everyone reading this has experienced personal tragedy. When Victor Frankl, a psychologist, was a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp, he made some very astute observations about how people responded to extreme conditions. He noticed that those who could find meaning in the tragedy were happier and more likely to survive. He, himself, imagined […]

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