January 11, 2024
LILY Letter 144: How to Talk to Dating Partners About Your Past

Since the audience for this letter is primarily Latter-day Saint single adults, it is almost inevitable that some of you did things you are not proud of that contributed to a divorce. Such misdeeds could include an affair (either sexual or emotional or both), serious dishonesty with a former spouse, substance abuse issues, or the […]

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May 23, 2023
LILY Letter 111: The Blessing of Abundant Options

God wants us to be abundant. He will bless us with what we need to do His work. He will turn what is not enough into plenty. Jesus fed 5000 people with three loaves and two fishes and had an abundance left over. God is not limited by the scarce resources of the earth.  Joel […]

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January 3, 2023
LILY Letter 91: Happy New Year!

Welcome to 2023! What are your hopes and aspirations? Many people create New Year's resolutions this time of year, perhaps adopting a word to guide them in the coming twelve months and striving to turn over a new leaf in some area of their life. It tends to be a fresh start, full of endless […]

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December 1, 2022
MID-SINGLES, MISTLETOE, AND MAKING MERRY

For many over age 30 and not married or in a promising relationship, the holidays can be a desperately lonely time. You may look at others with spouses and children and watch them decorating homes and yards for the holidays and feel a longing ache. For those who are divorced, the holidays can be a […]

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August 30, 2022
LILY Letter 73: The Flip Side of Flop Circumstances

When you are in the middle of what feels like the worst possible thing that could ever happen to you, such as a divorce or the death of an intimate partner, it can be nearly impossible to see beyond painful feelings of despair. We wouldn’t want to take those painful feelings away entirely because the […]

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June 20, 2022
ABOUT MID-SINGLE EXHAUSTION

My first divorce exhausted me in mind, body, and spirit. I felt like I had just been kicked in the stomach all the time for about 4 years. I felt so much anxiety about all of the life changes occasioned by divorce that I couldn't even open my mail at certain times. I would think, […]

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January 11, 2022
LILY Letter 40: Joy and the Refiner's Fire

Elder Quentin L. Cook said: "There are many kinds of challenges. Some give us necessary experiences. Adverse results in this mortal life are not evidence of lack of faith or of an imperfection in our Father in Heaven’s overall plan. The refiner’s fire is real, and qualities of character and righteousness that are forged in […]

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December 27, 2021
WHAT HOPE DO YOU HAVE?

The suicide rate in America increased by 24 percent from 2000-2014. The rate is so high now that it has actually decreased the average life expectancy by 3 years. It is the 7th leading cause of death for men and 14th for women. About 50,000 people, an entire small city, die by suicide every year […]

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November 27, 2021
A HAPPY WEEKEND

This past weekend, we attended a wedding celebration for two members of this group, Sam and Kayleen Baguley Hallows. I was talking to Sam about how most of the greatest blessings in my life had come from tragedy. Getting divorced from my kid's mom was the hardest thing I'd ever done. But because of that, […]

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