June 20, 2023
LILY Letter 115: Honoring Single Fathers

Now is a confusing time to be a man. In this day and age, a father that tries to be the head of the house is looked upon as a misogynist dinosaur. On the other hand, a father who does not try to be the head of the house is looked upon as weak and […]

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March 28, 2023
LILY Letter 103: How to Be More Than Friends

There are many important benefits to being bold and confident enough to be straightforward and say "I like you." In order to BE more than friends means doing something to allow for that option.  The reason it is bold to confess your feelings is the risk that your friend may not feel the same way. […]

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December 27, 2022
LILY Letter 90: Moving into the New Year with Strength

One thing we learn in meditation is how to separate ourselves from our thoughts and emotions. That includes being able to see our feelings like weather and watch them drift by like dark storm clouds. This is a helpful technique for mastering our emotions instead of being mastered by them. It also helps us release […]

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December 20, 2022
LILY Letter 89: Merry Christmas!

When the angel told the shepherds that he was bringing them good tidings of great joy which shall be to all people, "all people" includes widows, divorcees, not yet married singles, single parents, parents missing their children, those experiencing financial hardships and betrayal, etc. Good tidings of great joy are for all of us, no […]

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December 1, 2022
MID-SINGLES, MISTLETOE, AND MAKING MERRY

For many over age 30 and not married or in a promising relationship, the holidays can be a desperately lonely time. You may look at others with spouses and children and watch them decorating homes and yards for the holidays and feel a longing ache. For those who are divorced, the holidays can be a […]

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April 18, 2022
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE SPOUSE

I am a devoted listener of my friend, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. I think anyone interested in a better marital relationship or personal development could benefit from her perspective. The issues she discusses are highly sensitive and, therefore, highly impactful. She often discusses the dynamic between a low desire partner and a high desire partner as […]

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December 23, 2021
AN UNUSUAL ANNIVERSARY

December 23, 2016, five years ago today, was one of those days when I said, like so many of you, "I hate dating!" It was the day Cathy broke up with me. I could tell it was coming for about a month. It had become increasingly obvious that her heart was not in our relationship […]

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December 2, 2021
FINANCIAL ISSUES AND SINGLE PARENTS

We all know single moms who have become displaced homemakers when a divorce occurred, and they were forced to enter the workforce for the first time in many years or perhaps the first time ever. Even if these women have college degrees, if they have gone a decade or two without putting anything new on […]

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November 4, 2021
A MID-SINGLE KING, A PICTURE, AND THE HAZARDS OF ONLINE DATING

There is a whole chapter in Intentional Courtship (which will be released tomorrow, November 5th!) entitled "Online Dating: the Wild West of Mid-Single Life." In January of the year 1540, a little bit before the invention of the internet, England's King Henry VIII married his fourth wife, the German princess Anne of Cleves from Dusseldorf. […]

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