July 12, 2022
LILY Letter 66: Spiritual Trials of Faith

At a recent family reunion, Jeff's father asked each of his children and their spouses to share their testimonies. After we and his siblings had shared, Jeff's oldest son offered to share his testimony. He is the oldest grandchild and looked up to by all the younger grandkids. The pre-teens followed him around all weekend, […]

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May 31, 2022
LILY Letter 60: The Right Kind of Confidence

Many women told me during my mid-single years that confidence in a man was sexy. I believe there is a survival function in female attraction to a confident man. A bold and confident man is a good protector and is more likely to discourage potential attackers and predators. The problem with this wisdom is that, […]

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October 28, 2021
DEALING WITH THE COLLATERAL DAMAGE OF DIVORCE

As you may know by now, we are releasing our long-awaited book, "Intentional Courtship: a Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, and Pairing up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints," on November 5th. Intentional Courtship contains a lot of counsel and information about coping with loss and recovery from pain and trauma through […]

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October 18, 2021
INDEPENDENT JEFF & RELATIONSHIP JEFF

I recently saw an episode of Seinfeld where Elaine decides to befriend George's fiancée, Susan. Kramer warned Jerry that their circle of mid-single friends was "George's sanctuary," and that inviting Susan into that space would cause worlds to collide and blow everything up. Kramer's words proved prescient when George found out. He says there are […]

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September 28, 2021
LILY Letter 25: Finding Meaning in Tragedy

Virtually everyone reading this has experienced personal tragedy. When Victor Frankl, a psychologist, was a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp, he made some very astute observations about how people responded to extreme conditions. He noticed that those who could find meaning in the tragedy were happier and more likely to survive. He, himself, imagined […]

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June 29, 2021
LILY Letter 12: Love Stories

I recently learned from my son that his mother, my former spouse, never really loved or wanted me—that she married me because I tried hard and she found that irresistible, until she didn’t. My memory of her behavior toward me in the early days was much warmer and more affectionate than that. It seemed to […]

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