May 23, 2023
LILY Letter 111: The Blessing of Abundant Options

God wants us to be abundant. He will bless us with what we need to do His work. He will turn what is not enough into plenty. Jesus fed 5000 people with three loaves and two fishes and had an abundance left over. God is not limited by the scarce resources of the earth.  Joel […]

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December 13, 2022
LILY Letter 88: Surviving the Holidays

The holidays often accentuate the grief of single people, particularly those who are newly divorced. It can be an all too poignant reminder of our losses, and especially if we are missing our kids for Christmas for the first time. It can be a lonely time to be without a companion. Longing for family tends […]

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December 28, 2021
LILY Letter 38: Mindset for a New Year

We saw this piece of art in New York City and the image really caught our eyes. As life coaches, we teach about thought work and do a fair amount individually and in our marriage, so our attention is often focused on what is happening in the mind. Because our human mind created the life […]

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November 2, 2021
WHY THE TEMPLE?

I address this question to Latter-day Saint men in Chapter 6 of Intentional Courtship. The reasons are actually quite profound. Many Latter-day Saint mid-singles have lost temple marriages. Many are cynical and jaded and believe that temple marriage is for the optimistic young couple with their whole lives ahead of them. I have heard many […]

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September 28, 2021
LILY Letter 25: Finding Meaning in Tragedy

Virtually everyone reading this has experienced personal tragedy. When Victor Frankl, a psychologist, was a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp, he made some very astute observations about how people responded to extreme conditions. He noticed that those who could find meaning in the tragedy were happier and more likely to survive. He, himself, imagined […]

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September 14, 2021
ON APPEARANCES AND IDEALS

One of the biggest benefits of mid-single life is being freed from the burden of Latter-day Saint idealism. In our faith, we have developed a very specific cultural picture of what "the good life" looks like. I should know. My former wife and I had that image. We both served in "important" callings in the […]

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