November 15, 2022
LILY Letter 84: Giving Grace to Your Former Spouse

One of the ways that we can know when we have forgiven someone is when we sincerely wish them well in our hearts. When good things happen to them, our hearts are happy for their success. Even if it might be something we want for ourselves, we hold that space and possibility open for our […]

Read More
May 17, 2022
LILY Letter 58: Faith Crisis and the Dark Side of Agency

One of the most important things divorcees understand that many other people don't to the same degree is that agency has a dark side. It is wonderful when we make choices in relationships that lead to happiness and success. It is miserable when others make decisions that hurt us and we have no say in […]

Read More
March 1, 2022
PUBLIC VS. PRIVATE TRIALS

Over the weekend, Jeff and I had the opportunity to attend a portion of the "BYU Life After Divorce Conference" (which we were invited to observe as potential presenters for next year). The ending keynote was given by Brad Wilcox, who talked about public versus private trials (among other things). He reminded us that Jesus […]

Read More
November 8, 2021
TRUST THE PROCESS

In October General Conference this year, Elder Uchtdorf said: "We need an ongoing, daily infusion of heavenly light. We need 'times of refreshing.' Times of personal restoration." Mid-singles who have experienced painful losses often feel a sense that the identity, happiness, and wholeness they once felt has been shattered. Speaking of the restoration of the […]

Read More
September 7, 2021
LILY Letter 22: Promises God Didn't Keep?

Many times have we heard divorced mid-singles express deep disappointment over the loss of a marriage saying, "I did everything I was supposed to. I went on a mission. I married a returned missionary in the temple. I kept the law of chastity before I was married and after. I paid my tithing and accepted […]

Read More
November 12, 2020
A FRIEND, A TEMPLE, AND A LEGEND

In November 2017, I (Jeff Teichert) was in China. These two pictures are of the Leifing Pagoda (Temple) near Westlake in Hangzhou, and my translator, Mei. She became a good friend. She and this temple will always be tied together in my memory. As we were walking around Westlake on Sunday afternoon, viewing this temple […]

Read More
Love in Later Years © 2021
Privacy Policy