March 21, 2023
LILY Letter 102: Long Distance Relationships

Some ask why they should consider a long distance relationship, when they are typically more difficult and more complicated than a relationship with someone who lives in the same town. There are several reasons: 1. You may be in a remote location church-wise. If you really believe in the blessings of eternal marriage and take […]

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September 13, 2022
LILY Letter 75: The Power of Mindfulness

For most of us, life offers us a plethora of options that keep us super busy and many of us are over taxed and stressed out. Life is more uncertain for many people now than ever before because of the fast pace of life with technology. This leaves many of us with serious anxiety and […]

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May 31, 2022
LILY Letter 60: The Right Kind of Confidence

Many women told me during my mid-single years that confidence in a man was sexy. I believe there is a survival function in female attraction to a confident man. A bold and confident man is a good protector and is more likely to discourage potential attackers and predators. The problem with this wisdom is that, […]

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March 1, 2022
LILY Letter 47: What is Real Love?

Jesus said, ”Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life" (John 4:13-14). Real love is that pure Christlike love that […]

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February 15, 2022
LILY Letter 45: Strong Men

The National Institute of Mental Health cited statistics showing the suicide rate among males was 3.7 times higher than among females. For centuries we have been socialized to believe that men are the stronger sex and exist to protect and provide for women. As Lea Winerman wrote: “Try to imagine the Marlboro man in therapy. […]

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December 4, 2021
HOW SHOULD YOU TREAT YOUR PARTNER IN PUBLIC?

You know the cringe-worthy old married people who openly bicker about each other in front of other people? Perhaps one of them is telling a story "for the millionth time” or the other remembers it differently and jumps in to correct the details. The first one takes offense and says something snarky. Meanwhile, everyone else […]

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October 23, 2021
LOSING CONTROL, GAINING CONFIDENCE

Two weeks ago, on Saturday 10/9/21, I (Cathy) was in a car crash. We were SO grateful to be attending church together the very next day (as indicated in the featured photograph)! There is an "illusion of control" in driving and in dating, especially if you've never been in an accident or experienced a serious […]

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October 21, 2021
WHAT DO COUPLES FIGHT ABOUT?

In this short video clip, Dr. John Gottman says he is asked this question all the time, and "the number one thing people fight about is nothing." He uses the example of the TV remote control, which ends up being a symbol of control in the relationship. The point is, of course, that most of […]

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October 4, 2021
ABOUT HONESTY

In our Facebook group, I have frequently written about the importance of authenticity and vulnerability to create trust--even trust in yourself. If you can be vulnerable and open about yourself, then when someone chooses to love you, you can believe that they love the real you and not the mask you are wearing. It helps […]

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