April 11, 2024
LILY Letter 156: Considering a Second Marriage?

Divorce and second marriages are complex and emotionally charged topics that warrant careful consideration. It's a well-documented phenomenon that second marriages often end up being brief. This can be attributed to several factors. Firstly, many individuals enter into a second marriage on the rebound, still hurting from their previous relationship and afraid of being alone. […]

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October 26, 2023
LILY Letter 133: The Recipe for Remarriage

Remarriage is typically preceded by a process of relationship loss recovery, reentering the dating world, choosing to commit to a new person and ultimately create a new family and a new life. So what's the recipe? If you have consumed much of the material we produce at LILY, you know we aren't huge fans of […]

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September 12, 2023
LILY Letter 127: Running Toward Your Goals

How often have you heard variations of the following statements? "No woman will give me a chance." "There are no real men who will step up in relationships." "There are way more suitable single women then men, so there aren't enough good men to go around." "Women only want a man with good looks and […]

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June 6, 2023
LILY Letter 113: Is Remarriage Worth It?

We recently attended the sealing of a remarried LILY couple with a blended family of 9 children. It hasn't been an easy road for them, but they say it IS worth it. Building a new marriage relationship later in life comes with complications. Co-parenting with former spouses, dealing with the trauma and reactions of your […]

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May 30, 2023
LILY Letter 112: After Divorce, How Soon Should I Date?

How many stories have we heard about people who start to date while their divorces are pending, get engaged shortly afterward, and are married two or three months after the divorce is final? We've heard a lot of them. The brief second marriage appears to be a common phenomenon in our faith community. (We each […]

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January 24, 2023
LILY Letter 94: Sunshine for 2023

Our first interview this year is with Sunshine Harston, who sheds some incredible light on her own personal experience with divorce, death of a spouse, and now being remarried with a blended family and bonus children. She has referred to some of her greatest losses as "beautiful heartbreak." We have pondered that in the wake […]

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November 15, 2022
LILY Letter 84: Giving Grace to Your Former Spouse

One of the ways that we can know when we have forgiven someone is when we sincerely wish them well in our hearts. When good things happen to them, our hearts are happy for their success. Even if it might be something we want for ourselves, we hold that space and possibility open for our […]

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November 8, 2022
LILY Letter 83: Giving Your Heart a Chance

In July 2015, the Arbinger Institute published, "The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict. The fundamental premise of the book is that our hearts are either at war with each other or at peace, and that peace in our hearts creates peace in the home, the community, and the world. A heart at […]

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November 27, 2021
A HAPPY WEEKEND

This past weekend, we attended a wedding celebration for two members of this group, Sam and Kayleen Baguley Hallows. I was talking to Sam about how most of the greatest blessings in my life had come from tragedy. Getting divorced from my kid's mom was the hardest thing I'd ever done. But because of that, […]

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