June 27, 2023
LILY Letter 116: Developing a Positive Outlook on Dating & Relationships

We've heard so many single adults say "I hate dating." Why is that? Perhaps there are as many answers as there are people. But I think they all come down to something deep in our nature that dislikes being judged. And dating gives you more opportunities to be judged than almost anything else. When we […]

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May 9, 2023
LILY Letter 109: Wishing Everyone Well (Anniversary Edition)

This week we celebrate our 5-year wedding anniversary. We were sealed in the Provo City Center Temple May 11, 2018. For our single readers who long for a joyful temple marriage, we believe one day that joy will be yours! How do you want people to respond when it's your turn to celebrate new love […]

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May 2, 2023
LILY Letter 108: Having Hard Conversations

The kindest thing we can do in a relationship is to speak truth in a compassionate yet assertive way. However, most of us tend to avoid having hard conversations and the discomfort and unknown repercussions that can come with them. The following four scenarios are examples of why we tend to avoid hard conversations and […]

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April 25, 2023
LILY Letter 107: How Do You Handle Rejection?

From the first time in adolescence when we start expressing our interest in the opposite sex, we start down a road of dealing with romantic rejection -- sometimes for the rest of our lives! For many of us, it will be decades until we find a companion that we mutually choose for the long haul. […]

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March 28, 2023
LILY Letter 103: How to Be More Than Friends

There are many important benefits to being bold and confident enough to be straightforward and say "I like you." In order to BE more than friends means doing something to allow for that option.  The reason it is bold to confess your feelings is the risk that your friend may not feel the same way. […]

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November 22, 2022
LILY Letter 85: Happy Thanksgiving!

​In November of 1621, 401 years ago, the Pilgrims of Plymouth Colony gathered with the Wampanoag tribe for an autumn harvest festival. It is now recognized as the first Thanksgiving feast in America. These Pilgrims came to America in search of a new start due to the collapse of the Dutch textile industry and the […]

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August 23, 2022
LILY Letter 72: The Courage to Love Again

One of the most common refrains we hear from mid-singles is “I hate dating.” In the vast majority of situations, the individual doesn’t actually “hate dating.” He or she hates rejection. He or she hates being judged. Rejection in dating often feels deeply personal, and it requires a lot of emotional maturity to cope with […]

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June 6, 2022
IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE FOR ME?

This is a question asked by many who have reached their 30s or 40s without marrying. It is also asked by many who are divorced or widowed. For the divorced, they once believed the search was over, and they were glad to be done with the dating game. Some believed they had gotten really lucky […]

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March 22, 2022
LILY Letter 50: Beyond Codependance

What’s on the other side of codependence? A life more beautiful than you could possibly imagine if you are stuck in this addictive pattern. It is far superior to want a partner than it is to need a partner. Codependence is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, often one who requires support on account of an illness […]

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