June 6, 2022
IS THERE ANYONE OUT THERE FOR ME?

This is a question asked by many who have reached their 30s or 40s without marrying. It is also asked by many who are divorced or widowed. For the divorced, they once believed the search was over, and they were glad to be done with the dating game. Some believed they had gotten really lucky […]

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January 11, 2022
WHAT TURNS WOMEN OFF?

This is MUST READ for Single Men! When the women in our "Love In Later Years" Facebook group were asked, "What are the words or behaviors that 'scare you off' about men?," 41+ women responded and this is a summary of what they said. We hope a lot of the men followed what the women […]

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January 7, 2022
WHAT TURNS MEN OFF?

This is MUST READ for Single Women! When the men in our "Love In Later Years" Facebook group were asked, "What do women do or say that scares (or turns) you off?," 29+ men responded and this is a summary of what they said. We hope a lot of women followed what the men said […]

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December 28, 2021
LILY Letter 38: Mindset for a New Year

We saw this piece of art in New York City and the image really caught our eyes. As life coaches, we teach about thought work and do a fair amount individually and in our marriage, so our attention is often focused on what is happening in the mind. Because our human mind created the life […]

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November 2, 2021
WHY THE TEMPLE?

I address this question to Latter-day Saint men in Chapter 6 of Intentional Courtship. The reasons are actually quite profound. Many Latter-day Saint mid-singles have lost temple marriages. Many are cynical and jaded and believe that temple marriage is for the optimistic young couple with their whole lives ahead of them. I have heard many […]

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October 29, 2021
"WHY WON'T ANYONE GIVE ME A CHANCE?"

We discuss this sentiment at some length in "Intentional Courtship," which we will be releasing on November 5th. I have seen various comments of this kind on social media probably hundreds of times since I became a mid-single about 13 years ago. The comment usually comes from men. Before I answer the question, I want […]

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August 9, 2021
HOW PEOPLE THINK

This past weekend, Cathy and I attended a Teichert family reunion in Cokeville, Wyoming. We stayed until Sunday and went to Church. I used to spend summers in Cokeville when I was a teenager, and I still know a lot of people in my grandmother's ward. It was fun introducing them to Cathy. In a […]

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July 27, 2021
LILY Letter 16: Risks Worth Taking

You cannot find love without risk. This is a fundamental law of nature. Ultimately, the games we play in dating are all attempts to violate this law. You might ask your friend to talk to the person and see if they can tease out a revelation about that person’s feelings for you, without telling the […]

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