March 21, 2024
LILY Letter 153: How P*rn Impacts Relationships

Describing his father's dream, Nephi said, "I said unto them that the water which my father saw was filthiness; and so much was his mind swallowed up in other things that he beheld not the filthiness of the water" (1 Nephi 15:27). When we think about how to overcome pornography or any other vice, sometimes […]

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February 29, 2024
LILY Letter 151: The Stewardship to Heal What's Hurting

Sometimes people get divorced hoping to escape the pain that is inside of them. You may be one of these people, or perhaps were married to one. The problem with this thinking is that the pain lives inside of you, so you take it with you wherever you go. It isn't somehow transferred from another person […]

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January 17, 2023
LILY Letter 93: The Power of Thought Work

Our NEW featured LILY Tube video is about our F-SEEBO coaching model, which helps us elevate our energy and emotions to naturally shift our own behaviors and ultimately produce better outcomes in our lives — all by intentionally choosing thoughts that serve us best and are in alignment with our values and core desires. While […]

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August 2, 2022
LILY Letter 69: From Trauma to Truth

We started ministering to mid-singles because they were underserved. Mid-singles are unique. Their needs are fundamentally different from those of most married and settled people. One of the biggest ways mid-singles are different comes down to trauma. Mid-singles and and even former mid-singles who have remarried have almost all experienced major losses, disappointments, and pain […]

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April 18, 2022
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE SPOUSE

I am a devoted listener of my friend, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. I think anyone interested in a better marital relationship or personal development could benefit from her perspective. The issues she discusses are highly sensitive and, therefore, highly impactful. She often discusses the dynamic between a low desire partner and a high desire partner as […]

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March 1, 2022
PUBLIC VS. PRIVATE TRIALS

Over the weekend, Jeff and I had the opportunity to attend a portion of the "BYU Life After Divorce Conference" (which we were invited to observe as potential presenters for next year). The ending keynote was given by Brad Wilcox, who talked about public versus private trials (among other things). He reminded us that Jesus […]

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February 15, 2022
LILY Letter 45: Strong Men

The National Institute of Mental Health cited statistics showing the suicide rate among males was 3.7 times higher than among females. For centuries we have been socialized to believe that men are the stronger sex and exist to protect and provide for women. As Lea Winerman wrote: “Try to imagine the Marlboro man in therapy. […]

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January 11, 2022
WHAT TURNS WOMEN OFF?

This is MUST READ for Single Men! When the women in our "Love In Later Years" Facebook group were asked, "What are the words or behaviors that 'scare you off' about men?," 41+ women responded and this is a summary of what they said. We hope a lot of the men followed what the women […]

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January 7, 2022
WHAT TURNS MEN OFF?

This is MUST READ for Single Women! When the men in our "Love In Later Years" Facebook group were asked, "What do women do or say that scares (or turns) you off?," 29+ men responded and this is a summary of what they said. We hope a lot of women followed what the men said […]

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