March 11, 2022
GOD GIVE US MEN

What follows is a poem by Josiah Gilbert Holland expressing a view of honorable manhood from a bygone age. We live in a time where men are afraid to be men, and where their place in the world is often dishonored. While the loudest voices are telling us that we are no longer needed, many […]

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December 6, 2021
THE "FORM" FOR MEETING DATING PARTNERS

F amily O ccupation R ecreation M e During my mission in Australia, one of the mission leaders, Elder Mick Jupi, used to teach a formula for talking to potential investigators. He said to remember the acronym "FORM" for Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Message (which I changed to "Me" for dating FORM). The idea was […]

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December 4, 2021
HOW SHOULD YOU TREAT YOUR PARTNER IN PUBLIC?

You know the cringe-worthy old married people who openly bicker about each other in front of other people? Perhaps one of them is telling a story "for the millionth time” or the other remembers it differently and jumps in to correct the details. The first one takes offense and says something snarky. Meanwhile, everyone else […]

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October 27, 2021
ASKING FOR A DATE AND STARTING A CONVERSATION

There is a lot of discussion on this subject in "Intentional Courtship," which we will be releasing in a couple of weeks. Let me say, for the record, that the first two times I tried to message Cathy on Facebook, she didn't respond. The third time, she did and we had a good conversation. There […]

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October 11, 2021
ON COVENANT BREAKERS

In Romans Chapter 1, Paul rails, ”against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men," including "covenant breakers" (Romans 1:18, 31). One of the most common complaints I have heard by Latter-day Saint mid-singles is, "My ex broke his (or her) covenants." During much of my mid-single life, I used expressions much like that to justify my […]

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September 17, 2021
ABOUT LISTENING

In a recent podcast (yet to be released), Lark Dean Galley observed that women want to be loved and men want to be respected. The respect she discussed is avoiding the many temptations every day to nit pick her husband or make a running commentary on everything he does, how she wants things done, etc. […]

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June 1, 2021
LILY Letter 8: Dating and the Principle of Least Interest

Jeff and Cathy each hold college degrees in the family science field. The principle of least interest is a prominent theory in this discipline. It simply means that the partner who is least invested in a relationship controls that relationship. This is so because the less interested partner is more willing to walk away rather […]

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