April 25, 2023
LILY Letter 107: How Do You Handle Rejection?

From the first time in adolescence when we start expressing our interest in the opposite sex, we start down a road of dealing with romantic rejection -- sometimes for the rest of our lives! For many of us, it will be decades until we find a companion that we mutually choose for the long haul. […]

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February 1, 2022
LILY Letter 43: Love Month

I have sometimes wondered if Valentine's Day is worth it. For married people, it seems to be a time for crushed expectations and disappointment. Many complain that it adds pressure. For many singles, it is a poignant reminder of what they wish for and don't have. St. Valentine was a third century Roman Catholic. Since […]

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December 22, 2021
OF DISAPPOINTMENT AND PAIN

Have you ever stood over the crib and watched your young child sleeping and felt overwhelming love wash over you, only to be replaced by the gripping fear, "What if something happens to him/her?" And that thought steals your happiness and peace in a moment that might be one of unadulterated joy. Brene Brown used […]

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August 31, 2021
WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH COMPATIBILITY? 

In the waning days of my first marriage, my former wife told me on several occasions, "We're just mismatched." At the time, I hurt a lot over those words. I didn't think we were mismatched, but if one person in the relationship says it is a mismatch that is enough to make it true. My […]

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July 11, 2021
WE MEAN FOREVER

My all-time favorite TV sitcom is "Coach." When I was watching it in my twenties back in the 1990s (when it was produced), I just thought it was a funny slapstick comedy with great one-liners and zany characters. It certainly is all of that. But when I watched it again in my 40s, I realized […]

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