June 27, 2023
LILY Letter 116: Developing a Positive Outlook on Dating & Relationships

We've heard so many single adults say "I hate dating." Why is that? Perhaps there are as many answers as there are people. But I think they all come down to something deep in our nature that dislikes being judged. And dating gives you more opportunities to be judged than almost anything else. When we […]

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January 31, 2023
LILY Letter 95: The Law of Unintended Consequences

The law of unintended consequences is a frequently observed phenomenon in which any action has results that are not part of the actor's purpose. The superfluous consequences may or may not be foreseeable or even immediately observable and they may be beneficial, harmful, or neutral in their impact. For example, our government printed $4 trillion […]

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January 29, 2022
CELEBRATING OUR THIRD FIRST KISS

Cathy and I broke up twice during our dating relationship. The first time was only for a few weeks. But after we started seeing each other again, it took a little time to share our second first kiss. The second time we broke up lasted over a year; when I wrote Cathy a letter asking […]

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November 9, 2021
LILY Letter 31: Persistence Mirroring Patience

In his General Conference talk "One Percent Better," Elder Dunn spoke of how the “mighty change” we desire in our lives can be made possible through the small gains that aggregate through consistent, daily effort. He went on to suggest mirroring persistence with patience. Take a moment and ponder this concept of balancing anxious engagement […]

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November 9, 2021
WHAT ABOUT COMMUNICATING YOUR FEELINGS?

One of the saddest tasks I ever performed as an attorney was handling the divorce of a Bishop in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I had known him for many years. The divorce itself was not acrimonious. The bishop and his wife agreed readily about most elements of their settlement. Both were […]

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October 5, 2021
LILY Letter 26: General Conference Highlights

As we joyfully received inspired messages during General Conference this past weekend (churchofjesuschrist.org), we paid particular attention to how these talks apply to mid-singles and later-married couples. Here we share a few highlights. President Nelson's quote from a previous General Conference was cited in at least three different talks: "The joy we feel has little […]

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June 15, 2021
LILY Letter 10: Bill & Melinda Gates and the Gray Divorce

Microsoft founder Bill Gates and his wife of 27 years, Melinda Gates, recently announced their divorce. This has shocked the world because the Gates seemed like the epitome of a best-friends marriage, united by three children and their joint leadership of the world's largest charitable foundation. We don’t claim to know anything about the Gates’ divorce. […]

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