January 11, 2024
LILY Letter 144: How to Talk to Dating Partners About Your Past

Since the audience for this letter is primarily Latter-day Saint single adults, it is almost inevitable that some of you did things you are not proud of that contributed to a divorce. Such misdeeds could include an affair (either sexual or emotional or both), serious dishonesty with a former spouse, substance abuse issues, or the […]

Read More
January 4, 2024
LILY Letter 143: A Word for the New Year?

Every January, social media is full of posts where people announce their choice for a word as their theme for the year. For the past 7-8 years (since before we married), we've been choosing a word for ourselves. In 2023, Jeff chose "Strength" and Cathy chose "Comfort." We'd like to share a bit about our […]

Read More
November 30, 2023
LILY Letter 138: About Time

In teaching time management, Stephen Covey and Hyrum Smith taught four divisions for how we might categorize uses of our time: 1. Urgent and important 2. Important but not urgent 3. Urgent but not important, and 4. Not urgent and not important Essentially, where most people get confused and waste their time is between Quadrants […]

Read More
September 5, 2023
LILY Letter 126: Courting with Confidence

Whether you have loved and lost through the death of a spouse, divorce, or even devastating breakups for those who have not yet married, re-entering the dating world once you've been out of it for a while is daunting for most new singles. Would you like to successfully re-enter the dating scene and confidently navigate […]

Read More
June 20, 2023
LILY Letter 115: Honoring Single Fathers

Now is a confusing time to be a man. In this day and age, a father that tries to be the head of the house is looked upon as a misogynist dinosaur. On the other hand, a father who does not try to be the head of the house is looked upon as weak and […]

Read More
June 6, 2023
LILY Letter 113: Is Remarriage Worth It?

We recently attended the sealing of a remarried LILY couple with a blended family of 9 children. It hasn't been an easy road for them, but they say it IS worth it. Building a new marriage relationship later in life comes with complications. Co-parenting with former spouses, dealing with the trauma and reactions of your […]

Read More
March 14, 2023
LILY Letter 101: Happy St. Patrick's!

Seven years ago this St. Patrick's Day, Cathy posted a selfie wearing a green shirt emblazoned with a shamrock and the words, "Looking for my Lucky Charm." That day, her eternal companion entered her life. Jeff saw her post and sent her a friend request. We became Facebook friends on St. Patrick's in 2016 so St. […]

Read More
August 13, 2022
HOW MUCH SHOULD WE HEAL BEFORE DATING?

Cathy and I often advise those who have been through a traumatic relationship loss to take some time to heal before venturing back out into the dating world. Sometimes, I think we might have overdone this. We recently attended weddings for two middle aged couples, both of whom had done a lot of intentional healing […]

Read More
June 16, 2022
LILY Letter 62: How Connection and Compassion Save Lives

This month we interviewed Julie Lee, author of "I See You: How Connection and Compassion Save Lives." In the movie Avatar, the main character, Jake Sully, learns the phrase "I see you" from Neytiri, his love interest among the Na'vi people on the planet Pandora. To the Na'vi, "I see you" means more than noticing. […]

Read More
1 2 3
Love in Later Years © 2021
Privacy Policy