August 1, 2023
LILY Letter 121: To Make Much of Time

17th century English poet Robert Herrick penned these immortal words about a very mortal subject:  Gather ye rose-buds while ye may, Old Time is still a-flying; And this same flower that smiles today Tomorrow will be dying. The glorious lamp of heaven, the sun, The higher he’s a-getting, The sooner will his race be run, […]

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May 30, 2023
LILY Letter 112: After Divorce, How Soon Should I Date?

How many stories have we heard about people who start to date while their divorces are pending, get engaged shortly afterward, and are married two or three months after the divorce is final? We've heard a lot of them. The brief second marriage appears to be a common phenomenon in our faith community. (We each […]

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October 3, 2022
FACING FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES AS A MID-SINGLE

Money is a vexing subject for many mid-singles. You might be a single mom forced into the workforce for the first time by a divorce or the loss of your husband to death. You might be a single dad who has suffered business losses or career setbacks–whether they contributed to the misery that caused the […]

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August 2, 2022
LILY Letter 69: From Trauma to Truth

We started ministering to mid-singles because they were underserved. Mid-singles are unique. Their needs are fundamentally different from those of most married and settled people. One of the biggest ways mid-singles are different comes down to trauma. Mid-singles and and even former mid-singles who have remarried have almost all experienced major losses, disappointments, and pain […]

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July 26, 2022
LILY Letter 68: It's Never Too Late

We all know singles in their late 20s, 30s, 40s or beyond who would like to be married but haven’t yet been blessed with the opportunity. We’ve also known singles who have had the opportunity to marry but things didn’t go as planned and it resulted in an unexpected marital loss through the untimely death […]

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July 5, 2022
LILY Letter 65: Letting Go to Love Again

There are plenty of relationships that begin with the premise of hating former companions, that hate becomes their new bond. Some continue in that pattern with a steady diet of negative comments about those same formers. How does that serve the couple? Is that the kind of relationship you want? Through our own experience, we […]

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June 28, 2022
LILY Letter 64: The Strengths of Both Sexes

Dating and marriage are a continual process of a man and a woman getting to know each other. While each individual is unique and special, men and women have complimentary characteristics that can bless a relationship. While no one is 100% stereotypically male or female, it is important to recognize and understand general tendencies in […]

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June 21, 2022
LILY Letter 63: Free to Explore vs. Loyal Commitment

We were often dismayed during our mid-single years when we heard criticism of people as a "player” or “serial dater." These terms were often applied to dating partners who were not ready to be exclusive after only a few dates or even a single encounter. We heard many singles say "I only date one person […]

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June 20, 2022
ABOUT MID-SINGLE EXHAUSTION

My first divorce exhausted me in mind, body, and spirit. I felt like I had just been kicked in the stomach all the time for about 4 years. I felt so much anxiety about all of the life changes occasioned by divorce that I couldn't even open my mail at certain times. I would think, […]

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