January 9, 2023
A WORD FOR THE YEAR?

Every January, social media is full of posts where people announce their choice for a word as their theme for the year. In 2022, I also decided to choose a word. As I thought about what word to choose, what kept coming to me was the word “sanctify.” Little did I know at the time […]

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April 30, 2022
HOW DO I ADJUST TO BEING SINGLE?

A reader of my weekly column in Meridian Magazine recently wrote in asking for "an article regarding the men/women that are left behind after many years of marriage. A stage that many of us have never gone [through] before of being alone." It's a good question. For me, the loneliness actually began before the formal […]

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January 11, 2022
LILY Letter 40: Joy and the Refiner's Fire

Elder Quentin L. Cook said: "There are many kinds of challenges. Some give us necessary experiences. Adverse results in this mortal life are not evidence of lack of faith or of an imperfection in our Father in Heaven’s overall plan. The refiner’s fire is real, and qualities of character and righteousness that are forged in […]

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December 22, 2021
OF DISAPPOINTMENT AND PAIN

Have you ever stood over the crib and watched your young child sleeping and felt overwhelming love wash over you, only to be replaced by the gripping fear, "What if something happens to him/her?" And that thought steals your happiness and peace in a moment that might be one of unadulterated joy. Brene Brown used […]

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October 23, 2021
LOSING CONTROL, GAINING CONFIDENCE

Two weeks ago, on Saturday 10/9/21, I (Cathy) was in a car crash. We were SO grateful to be attending church together the very next day (as indicated in the featured photograph)! There is an "illusion of control" in driving and in dating, especially if you've never been in an accident or experienced a serious […]

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September 29, 2021
MEANINGS

Early in my first marriage, I remember having a conversation with my wife about sex. I told her I thought it was the deepest expression of love. She didn't see it that way. I asked her how she saw it and she told me, "It's just something fun we do together." Who was right? We […]

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September 28, 2021
LILY Letter 25: Finding Meaning in Tragedy

Virtually everyone reading this has experienced personal tragedy. When Victor Frankl, a psychologist, was a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp, he made some very astute observations about how people responded to extreme conditions. He noticed that those who could find meaning in the tragedy were happier and more likely to survive. He, himself, imagined […]

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August 3, 2021
LILY Letter 17: Wisdom from a Sex Therapist

Sex is a vital part of a thriving marriage. Most of us, including mid-singles, know or sense that. Most know that sexual intimacy is a sacred gift, and that is why we reserve it for our most sacred and special relationship in life. But often our way of teaching these principles can be profoundly negative. […]

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July 20, 2021
LILY Letter 15: The Power of Intention

Children of God, made in His image are given the power, “to act for themselves and not to be acted upon[.]” (2 Nephi 2:26.) Yet how often do married people resort to blaming each other for their misery and even for their own angry outbursts? We can be acted upon by our own emotions and […]

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