January 11, 2024
LILY Letter 144: How to Talk to Dating Partners About Your Past

Since the audience for this letter is primarily Latter-day Saint single adults, it is almost inevitable that some of you did things you are not proud of that contributed to a divorce. Such misdeeds could include an affair (either sexual or emotional or both), serious dishonesty with a former spouse, substance abuse issues, or the […]

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August 23, 2022
LILY Letter 72: The Courage to Love Again

One of the most common refrains we hear from mid-singles is “I hate dating.” In the vast majority of situations, the individual doesn’t actually “hate dating.” He or she hates rejection. He or she hates being judged. Rejection in dating often feels deeply personal, and it requires a lot of emotional maturity to cope with […]

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January 7, 2022
WHAT TURNS MEN OFF?

This is MUST READ for Single Women! When the men in our "Love In Later Years" Facebook group were asked, "What do women do or say that scares (or turns) you off?," 29+ men responded and this is a summary of what they said. We hope a lot of women followed what the men said […]

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October 26, 2021
ARE YOU LOOKING FOR MR. OR MRS. OPPOSITE?

As many of you know, Cathy and I both had brief second marriages following lengthy first marriages. In one case, the prior marriage was to someone who stonewalled (simply shut down and refused to talk about anything difficult or stressful). This is one of the Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse." After that kind […]

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August 3, 2021
LILY Letter 17: Wisdom from a Sex Therapist

Sex is a vital part of a thriving marriage. Most of us, including mid-singles, know or sense that. Most know that sexual intimacy is a sacred gift, and that is why we reserve it for our most sacred and special relationship in life. But often our way of teaching these principles can be profoundly negative. […]

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June 5, 2021
WORDS WE WISH WE SAID AT CHURCH

Those of us who are "culturally safe" can choose to be spiritually mature, loving, and kind. We echo what was said in this article, written June 1st. For our LGTBQ+ mid-single members. Our Wild Precious Life - The Words I Wish We Said At Church

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