June 20, 2023
LILY Letter 115: Honoring Single Fathers

Now is a confusing time to be a man. In this day and age, a father that tries to be the head of the house is looked upon as a misogynist dinosaur. On the other hand, a father who does not try to be the head of the house is looked upon as weak and […]

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May 31, 2022
LILY Letter 60: The Right Kind of Confidence

Many women told me during my mid-single years that confidence in a man was sexy. I believe there is a survival function in female attraction to a confident man. A bold and confident man is a good protector and is more likely to discourage potential attackers and predators. The problem with this wisdom is that, […]

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February 12, 2022
WOMEN: CAN YOU TREAT MEN AS EQUALS IN LOVE?

Friends, I want to address you on something that has been weighing heavy on my heart for awhile now. I have been reluctant to bring this up, because I feel it personally. But the issue is bigger than my personal feelings. As Cathy and I have worked to write a book and create LILY, we […]

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February 9, 2022
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE CONFIDENT?

For men, shame is most often manifest by feeling ashamed to be seen as weak. What was the most shameful thing you experienced in elementary school? Chances are that it involved being beaten up or bullied on the playground. I don't know if that is cultural or in our DNA. Whatever the reason, men have […]

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August 31, 2021
WHAT'S THE DEAL WITH COMPATIBILITY? 

In the waning days of my first marriage, my former wife told me on several occasions, "We're just mismatched." At the time, I hurt a lot over those words. I didn't think we were mismatched, but if one person in the relationship says it is a mismatch that is enough to make it true. My […]

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