June 21, 2022
LILY Letter 63: Free to Explore vs. Loyal Commitment

We were often dismayed during our mid-single years when we heard criticism of people as a "player” or “serial dater." These terms were often applied to dating partners who were not ready to be exclusive after only a few dates or even a single encounter. We heard many singles say "I only date one person […]

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October 28, 2021
DEALING WITH THE COLLATERAL DAMAGE OF DIVORCE

As you may know by now, we are releasing our long-awaited book, "Intentional Courtship: a Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, and Pairing up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints," on November 5th. Intentional Courtship contains a lot of counsel and information about coping with loss and recovery from pain and trauma through […]

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September 8, 2021
DO WE REALLY SEE OUR PARTNERS?

One of the most difficult things to accept when I got divorced was that someone I had lived with for 15 years, loved, shared a home and a bed with, taken vacations with, spent Christmases with, and raised children with didn't want me anymore. If someone could feel the way she did about me, knowing […]

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August 8, 2021
ABOUT CONTROL AND TRUST

I wrote this re-shared post (below) 9 years ago when I was struggling to recover from a divorce from my kids' mom. I encountered a lot of singles during my mid-single years who tended to be controlling in relationships and, alternatively, to keep relationships distant to avoid being controlled. At the end of the day, […]

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