June 20, 2023
LILY Letter 115: Honoring Single Fathers

Now is a confusing time to be a man. In this day and age, a father that tries to be the head of the house is looked upon as a misogynist dinosaur. On the other hand, a father who does not try to be the head of the house is looked upon as weak and […]

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June 13, 2023
LILY Letter 114: The Blessing of Blended Families

It takes a lot of courage to blend a family. Each blended family is unique and has varying challenges but every blended family requires a lot of adjusting for everyone involved. Often divorced parents feel guilty about what the divorce has done to their children, and they feel their guilt magnified by putting their children […]

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February 14, 2023
LILY Letter 97: Happy Valentine's!

In the movie "Mr. Wrong," the main character, played by Ellen DeGeneres calls Valentine's Day "the lamest day on a single girl's calendar." For many, it is a solemn reminder of what they don't have. It is sometimes an excuse for well-meaning parents to pressure their single adult children to hurry up and get married. […]

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November 7, 2022
DIVORCE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays, which are fast approaching, often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost and the loneliness we feel. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, […]

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March 16, 2022
WHAT IF YOUR FORMER SPOUSE IS TOXIC?

You want a peaceful co-parenting relationship right? In some cases, I hear divorcees say "I can't have a peaceful relationship with my former because [he or she] is an abusive narcissist." And it's quite true. There are some people who are so bitter and self-involved that they can't play nicely with others, no matter how […]

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December 7, 2021
LILY Letter 35: Divorce and the Holidays

The holidays can accentuate the grief of divorce, particularly for the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of dreams we have lost. If you are spending Christmas without your children, I hope these words bring you some comfort. On my first Christmas without my kids, well-meaning people wanted to make sure […]

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December 2, 2021
FINANCIAL ISSUES AND SINGLE PARENTS

We all know single moms who have become displaced homemakers when a divorce occurred, and they were forced to enter the workforce for the first time in many years or perhaps the first time ever. Even if these women have college degrees, if they have gone a decade or two without putting anything new on […]

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November 23, 2021
THE HOLIDAY: A FILM REVIEW

The 2006 movie "The Holiday" is available on Netflix for one more week. I had the chance to watch it again with Cathy recently. It strikes me that this movie contains some themes that are particularly relevant to this group. The film involves four mid-single adults trying to find their way. Amanda Woods (Cameron Diaz) […]

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November 19, 2021
DIVORCE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, I thought it would probably be our last. In […]

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