April 11, 2023
LILY Letter 105: Making Wise Choices

Before Joseph Smith went into the Grove of trees to pray, and ultimately received his first vision, he read the Bible passage in James: "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him" (James 1:5). In response, he […]

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February 20, 2023
WHEN THE LOSS OF YOUR FAIRYTALE “HURTS”

You may remember Kim Zmeskal as the world champion gymnast who was heavily favored to win the all-around gold medal at the Barcelona Olympics. She fell from the balance beam during her compulsory routine and her dreams of Olympic glory started to fade as her chance of making the all-around final became remote. Indeed, that […]

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August 30, 2022
LILY Letter 73: The Flip Side of Flop Circumstances

When you are in the middle of what feels like the worst possible thing that could ever happen to you, such as a divorce or the death of an intimate partner, it can be nearly impossible to see beyond painful feelings of despair. We wouldn’t want to take those painful feelings away entirely because the […]

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August 2, 2022
LILY Letter 69: From Trauma to Truth

We started ministering to mid-singles because they were underserved. Mid-singles are unique. Their needs are fundamentally different from those of most married and settled people. One of the biggest ways mid-singles are different comes down to trauma. Mid-singles and and even former mid-singles who have remarried have almost all experienced major losses, disappointments, and pain […]

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July 19, 2022
LILY Letter 67: Creating Positive Associations in the Dating World

After dating on and off for several months, I (Jeff) wanted a more committed relationship than Cathy felt ready for so she decided to discontinue dating me. Not surprisingly, I was hurt and disappointed and did not handle the situation as well as I could have. However, after a few months without contact, I began […]

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May 17, 2022
LILY Letter 58: Faith Crisis and the Dark Side of Agency

One of the most important things divorcees understand that many other people don't to the same degree is that agency has a dark side. It is wonderful when we make choices in relationships that lead to happiness and success. It is miserable when others make decisions that hurt us and we have no say in […]

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November 23, 2021
LILY Letter 33: Rising Like a Phoenix

Life can feel tragic when something we love dearly is burned to the ground. Those ashes, however, can be the beginning of higher, holier purpose. Much like the Provo City Center Temple, which rose from the ashes of the beloved Provo Tabernacle that literally caught fire, we too can rise from unexpected loss and become […]

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November 19, 2021
DIVORCE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, I thought it would probably be our last. In […]

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November 10, 2021
TO FORGIVE IS ROYAL

In 1979, the Irish Republican Army ("IRA") placed explosives on a fishing boat owned by Louis the Earl of Mountbatten, and detonated them for the purpose of assassinating him. Mountbatten was killed in the violent explosion along with a number of his grandchildren. By way of background, Mountbatten was a towering figure in Great Britain. […]

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