Following our divorces, we had a rough time and experienced many subsequent losses (financial, health, other relationships, etc.). On top of those accumulated losses, we each struggled with depression for many years. Oddly enough, losing everything we felt mattered taught us that gratitude is the most important key to happiness. We learned how to start […]
In this week's video, we discuss the use of the "D" word in marriage--the "D" word being "divorce." It is NOT good to include this word in marital vocabulary if what you really want is an atmosphere of safety, security and loving connection. It is important to make very clear commitments with yourself about not […]
God wants us to be abundant. He will bless us with what we need to do His work. He will turn what is not enough into plenty. Jesus fed 5000 people with three loaves and two fishes and had an abundance left over. God is not limited by the scarce resources of the earth. Joel […]
1-23-23 was the fifth anniversary of my third first kiss with the woman who, four months later, became my wife. You might be asking how a kiss could be a “first kiss” if it was “third.” If you’ve read my book, Intentional Courtship, you know that my relationship with Cathy had its ups and downs over […]
Waiting does not have to be passive. You can patiently wait while being anxiously engaged in good causes and active in pursuing the life you want. Of course, as anyone who has listened to our podcast or watched our videos or read or Amazon bestseller Intentional Courtship knows, we believe in being intentional about healing […]
Welcome to 2023! What are your plans? People often create New Year's resolutions this time of year, perhaps adopting a word to guide them in the coming year and striving to turn over a new leaf in some area of their life. It tends to be a fresh start, full of endless possibilities and desired […]
Have you ever stood over the crib and watched your young child sleeping and felt overwhelming love wash over you, only to be replaced by the gripping fear, "What if something happens to him/her?" And that thought steals your happiness and peace in a moment that might be one of unadulterated joy. Brene Brown used […]
"Grumpy Old Men" stars the classic comedy duo of Jack Lemon ("John") and Walter Matthau ("Max"). The subtitle of this picture is "A fifty year fight." Max and John live next door to each other in the small frozen town of Waubeshaw, Minnesota. These two grumpy old men frequently engage in a battle of insults, […]
"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7). Fear does not come from the spirit but from trauma and pain. The adversary works on our triggers and feelings of insecurity to prevent us from progressing in love and relationships. […]
