We want start this week's LILY Letter with an observation we have made in ourselves and in our coaching clients. For most, it is easy to see when a child is throwing a fit and causing him or herself more pain. It can also be obvious to see when a friend or family member who, […]

Before President Reagan left office in 1988, he gave an interview to Tom Brokaw where he talked about some of the disappointments he faced in his life. At one point, he was engaged to a lovely young woman, but life took them in different directions and she married someone else. As you might know, his […]

The holidays, which are fast approaching, often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost and the loneliness we feel. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, […]

Christmas is a time for rejoicing and reunions. But for single parents and other mid-singles, it can be an all too poignant reminder of things we have lost or that we are missing out on. In 2016, I had one of those Christmases. My older son was on a mission and my younger son had […]

I lost a hard fought election in 2006. My business suffered from my time campaigning and then from the Great Recession in 2008-09. I was representing some construction companies that owed me a lot of money. My (then) wife decided she was done in early 2009. I moved back to Utah in late 2010 for […]

During my mid-single years, I often heard the phrase "I hate dating." I even heard it from people who were actively making an effort to date--maybe even especially from those people. If I asked the reasons, I heard disparaging comments about the opposite sex, feelings about having hearts broken in the past, negative comments about […]