December 7, 2023
LILY Letter 139: Recovering From Grief & Completing Relationships

According to The Grief Recovery Handbook, grief is defined as: 1. a normal, natural reaction to any loss. 2. conflicting feelings when something familiar changes or ends. While studying this evidence-based method, proven to lessen the pain of any loss, we learn that grief is much broader than previously supposed. Even positive life changes -- […]

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November 9, 2023
LILY Letter 135: Thanking God in Advance

As we enter the month of Thanksgiving and giving thanks, we felt inspired to share something we have learned that strengthens faith and increases our capacity for gratitude at the same time. We invite you to practice the art of "Thanking God in Advance." If you've never heard of such a thing or tried it […]

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June 27, 2023
LILY Letter 116: Developing a Positive Outlook on Dating & Relationships

We've heard so many single adults say "I hate dating." Why is that? Perhaps there are as many answers as there are people. But I think they all come down to something deep in our nature that dislikes being judged. And dating gives you more opportunities to be judged than almost anything else. When we […]

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December 20, 2022
LILY Letter 89: Merry Christmas!

When the angel told the shepherds that he was bringing them good tidings of great joy which shall be to all people, "all people" includes widows, divorcees, not yet married singles, single parents, parents missing their children, those experiencing financial hardships and betrayal, etc. Good tidings of great joy are for all of us, no […]

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July 26, 2022
LILY Letter 68: It's Never Too Late

We all know singles in their late 20s, 30s, 40s or beyond who would like to be married but haven’t yet been blessed with the opportunity. We’ve also known singles who have had the opportunity to marry but things didn’t go as planned and it resulted in an unexpected marital loss through the untimely death […]

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July 19, 2022
LILY Letter 67: Creating Positive Associations in the Dating World

After dating on and off for several months, I (Jeff) wanted a more committed relationship than Cathy felt ready for so she decided to discontinue dating me. Not surprisingly, I was hurt and disappointed and did not handle the situation as well as I could have. However, after a few months without contact, I began […]

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March 16, 2022
WHAT IF YOUR FORMER SPOUSE IS TOXIC?

You want a peaceful co-parenting relationship right? In some cases, I hear divorcees say "I can't have a peaceful relationship with my former because [he or she] is an abusive narcissist." And it's quite true. There are some people who are so bitter and self-involved that they can't play nicely with others, no matter how […]

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January 28, 2022
DOES YOUR FORMER SPOUSE HAVE TO FEEL BAD FOR YOU TO FEEL GOOD?

One of the most often repeated phrases people said to me as I was going through my divorce from my kids' mom was, "Some day she'll be sorry." Another one that I often got was, "The best revenge is living a happy life after your divorce." Is that really so? I have often heard people […]

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January 25, 2022
LILY Letter 42: Is Misery Easier Than Change?

The suicide rate for people divorcing is more than three times the national average. On the Holmes-Rahe stress index, divorce ranks second only to the death of a spouse as life's most stressful event. It even outranks being sentenced to a prison term or being given a terminal diagnosis. If you find yourself in this […]

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