One of the ways that we can know when we have forgiven someone is when we sincerely wish them well in our hearts. When good things happen to them, our hearts are happy for their success. Even if it might be something we want for ourselves, we hold that space and possibility open for our […]
The suicide rate in America increased by 24 percent from 2000-2014. The rate is so high now that it has actually decreased the average life expectancy by 3 years. It is the 7th leading cause of death for men and 14th for women. About 50,000 people, an entire small city, die by suicide every year […]
I address this question to Latter-day Saint men in Chapter 6 of Intentional Courtship. The reasons are actually quite profound. Many Latter-day Saint mid-singles have lost temple marriages. Many are cynical and jaded and believe that temple marriage is for the optimistic young couple with their whole lives ahead of them. I have heard many […]
As you may know by now, we are releasing our long-awaited book, "Intentional Courtship: a Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress, and Pairing up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints," on November 5th. Intentional Courtship contains a lot of counsel and information about coping with loss and recovery from pain and trauma through […]
We seem to need heroes—larger than life figures who come to the rescue in moments of peril. George Washington was America's first big celebrity and every portrait artist in America wanted to paint him. George got tired of posing so Jean-Antoine Houdon used a plaster cast to make a life mask to loan to painters. […]
This is a picture of me with Attorney General Sean Reyes at the AG's Summer Family Picnic earlier this month. 23 years ago, I left a job in another state where my friend Adam was one of my co-workers. I felt the job was a bad fit for me, and a lot of the time […]
Children of God, made in His image are given the power, “to act for themselves and not to be acted upon[.]” (2 Nephi 2:26.) Yet how often do married people resort to blaming each other for their misery and even for their own angry outbursts? We can be acted upon by our own emotions and […]
I love the symbolism of this stained glass window. It shows Yeshua the Christ holding the hands of a married couple. Notice that the star of David is between them. The star is composed of two triangles. The upside down triangle represents the infinite power of God, loving each person individually. The right side up […]
This was one of my overriding worries when my marriage to my wife of 15 years ended. I was over 40 and divorced, and didn't think I was particularly good at dating in my 20s. I got married at 26, which was ancient at BYU at that time. Back then, I found talking to a […]
