May 30, 2023
LILY Letter 112: After Divorce, How Soon Should I Date?

How many stories have we heard about people who start to date while their divorces are pending, get engaged shortly afterward, and are married two or three months after the divorce is final? We've heard a lot of them. The brief second marriage appears to be a common phenomenon in our faith community. (We each […]

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November 7, 2022
DIVORCE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays, which are fast approaching, often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost and the loneliness we feel. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, […]

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March 16, 2022
WHAT IF YOUR FORMER SPOUSE IS TOXIC?

You want a peaceful co-parenting relationship right? In some cases, I hear divorcees say "I can't have a peaceful relationship with my former because [he or she] is an abusive narcissist." And it's quite true. There are some people who are so bitter and self-involved that they can't play nicely with others, no matter how […]

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January 18, 2022
LILY Letter 41: What If You Get Turned Down?

Rejection is probably the biggest fear mid-singles have in dating. In many cases, we may think it means something about our worth or desirability. Thus, it's easy to take rejection personally and either lash out in response or turn inward and stuff unexpressed pain. Is this perspective really factual? For one thing, what other people […]

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July 26, 2021
WHEN THINGS GO WRONG

This summer I have been so busy transitioning to a career change and also working on Love In Later Years that I have not been out on my bike at all . . . like since April. Yesterday afternoon I got to a good stopping place and decided to take 40-minutes for myself and go […]

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