When our perception of reality gets distorted by trauma, we are at risk for developing maladaptive behaviors to cope with these cognitive distortions. We may lash out at someone who bumps up against an "emotional sunburn" or choose to avoid people altogether to self-protect. It is easy to see cognitive distortions in others but it […]

At a recent family reunion, Jeff's father asked each of his children and their spouses to share their testimonies. After we and his siblings had shared, Jeff's oldest son offered to share his testimony. He is the oldest grandchild and looked up to by all the younger grandkids. The pre-teens followed him around all weekend, […]

One of the most important things divorcees understand that many other people don't to the same degree is that agency has a dark side. It is wonderful when we make choices in relationships that lead to happiness and success. It is miserable when others make decisions that hurt us and we have no say in […]

Published in Meridian Magazine "For Mid-Singles: The Mote and the Beam" By Jeff Teichert · November 15, 2021  Jesus asked: “[W]hy beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote […]

"Intentional Courtship" will be released in five days. One of the most important messages of this book is that there is life after divorce or the death of a loved one. Teaching the idea that joy can grow from tragedy is a central reason we founded LILY. Even more significant than your devastating loss is […]