We want start this week's LILY Letter with an observation we have made in ourselves and in our coaching clients. For most, it is easy to see when a child is throwing a fit and causing him or herself more pain. It can also be obvious to see when a friend or family member who, […]
Being perfect in Christ starts with accepting that we are not perfect on our own and yet also realizing that we each are offered the miraculous gift of being perfected in Him. Being made perfect in Christ is not perfect in fact -- we borrow from His perfection. Borrowing that perfection from Christ, who freely […]
Some ask why they should consider a long distance relationship, when they are typically more difficult and more complicated than a relationship with someone who lives in the same town. There are several reasons: 1. You may be in a remote location church-wise. If you really believe in the blessings of eternal marriage and take […]
The holidays often accentuate the grief of single people, particularly those who are newly divorced. It can be an all too poignant reminder of our losses, and especially if we are missing our kids for Christmas for the first time. It can be a lonely time to be without a companion. Longing for family tends […]
My first divorce exhausted me in mind, body, and spirit. I felt like I had just been kicked in the stomach all the time for about 4 years. I felt so much anxiety about all of the life changes occasioned by divorce that I couldn't even open my mail at certain times. I would think, […]
Toward the end of my freshman year of college, debate season was over and my roommate moved home. There was a brief period where I was alone. At the national tournament in Wichita, Kansas, I had encountered a young man competing for a school in Texas who asked me what I believed about salvation. I […]
The suicide rate in America increased by 24 percent from 2000-2014. The rate is so high now that it has actually decreased the average life expectancy by 3 years. It is the 7th leading cause of death for men and 14th for women. About 50,000 people, an entire small city, die by suicide every year […]
We all know single moms who have become displaced homemakers when a divorce occurred, and they were forced to enter the workforce for the first time in many years or perhaps the first time ever. Even if these women have college degrees, if they have gone a decade or two without putting anything new on […]
In October 2021 General Conference, Elder Uchtdorf said: "We need an ongoing, daily infusion of heavenly light. We need 'times of refreshing.' Times of personal restoration." Speaking of the restoration of the gospel, President Nelson said in that same Conference, "Restoration is a process, not an event[.]" Mid-singles who have experienced painful losses often feel […]
