January 18, 2024
LILY Letter 145: Your Best Chance to Beat the Odds

"I am divorced because my former spouse 'went off the deep end,' 'had an affair,' or 'laid around in his underwear all day looking at porn instead of working.'" Or how about "I picked a better person this time, so things will be fine." How many times have we heard this kind of thinking in the mid-single […]

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November 22, 2023
LILY Letter 137: Happy Thanksgiving! The Benefits of Gratitude

Following our divorces, we had a rough time and experienced many subsequent losses (financial, health, other relationships, etc.). On top of those accumulated losses, we each struggled with depression for many years. Oddly enough, losing everything we felt mattered taught us that gratitude is the most important key to happiness. We learned how to start […]

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June 20, 2023
LILY Letter 115: Honoring Single Fathers

Now is a confusing time to be a man. In this day and age, a father that tries to be the head of the house is looked upon as a misogynist dinosaur. On the other hand, a father who does not try to be the head of the house is looked upon as weak and […]

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May 16, 2023
LILY Letter 110: Honoring Single Mothers

We just celebrated Mother's Day. We believe holidays can last all month. This month, and especially this week, we encourage each of our readers to reach out to their single mom friends to offer appreciation and support in what can be a pretty thankless and heavy stewardship they carry. Whether you are a single mom, […]

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March 7, 2023
LILY Letter 100: Helping Things Go Right in Relationships

Welcome to the 100th edition of our weekly LILY Letter! Thank-you for allowing us to lift your spirits each week. We love you! Do you remember how, early in a relationship, you and your partner had such positive feelings and so much hope? Whatever the other person asked you immediately said, "I'm glad to help!" […]

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January 16, 2023
EXPECTATIONS AND RELATIONSHIPS

I recently met a single dad who, when asked his parenting philosophy said, “expectations.” I think many, if not most parents would say the same. We have expectations of all kinds in life. I work at my job, and I expect to be paid and paid on time. I sacrifice food I might like to […]

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December 27, 2022
LILY Letter 90: Moving into the New Year with Strength

One thing we learn in meditation is how to separate ourselves from our thoughts and emotions. That includes being able to see our feelings like weather and watch them drift by like dark storm clouds. This is a helpful technique for mastering our emotions instead of being mastered by them. It also helps us release […]

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December 13, 2022
LILY Letter 88: Surviving the Holidays

The holidays often accentuate the grief of single people, particularly those who are newly divorced. It can be an all too poignant reminder of our losses, and especially if we are missing our kids for Christmas for the first time. It can be a lonely time to be without a companion. Longing for family tends […]

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November 7, 2022
DIVORCE AND THE HOLIDAYS

The holidays, which are fast approaching, often accentuate the grief of divorced people, particularly the newly divorced. It is often an all too poignant reminder of the dreams we have lost and the loneliness we feel. The last holiday season I spent with my former wife and our two children was 2008. At the time, […]

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