January 18, 2024
LILY Letter 145: Your Best Chance to Beat the Odds

"I am divorced because my former spouse 'went off the deep end,' 'had an affair,' or 'laid around in his underwear all day looking at porn instead of working.'" Or how about "I picked a better person this time, so things will be fine." How many times have we heard this kind of thinking in the mid-single […]

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February 2, 2022
ARE YOU STUCK IN GROUNDHOG DAY?

Below is my son, Errol Teichert's analysis of the film "Groundhog Day" with Bill Murray and Andie McDowell. I've seen a bunch of articles on the internet that say that Groundhog Day has aged poorly. They cite: -Phil Connors kissing a woman without her consent. -Phil Connors manipulating a woman into sleeping with him. -Phil […]

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February 1, 2022
LILY Letter 43: Love Month

I have sometimes wondered if Valentine's Day is worth it. For married people, it seems to be a time for crushed expectations and disappointment. Many complain that it adds pressure. For many singles, it is a poignant reminder of what they wish for and don't have. St. Valentine was a third century Roman Catholic. Since […]

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January 25, 2022
LILY Letter 42: Is Misery Easier Than Change?

The suicide rate for people divorcing is more than three times the national average. On the Holmes-Rahe stress index, divorce ranks second only to the death of a spouse as life's most stressful event. It even outranks being sentenced to a prison term or being given a terminal diagnosis. If you find yourself in this […]

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December 4, 2021
HOW SHOULD YOU TREAT YOUR PARTNER IN PUBLIC?

You know the cringe-worthy old married people who openly bicker about each other in front of other people? Perhaps one of them is telling a story "for the millionth time” or the other remembers it differently and jumps in to correct the details. The first one takes offense and says something snarky. Meanwhile, everyone else […]

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November 15, 2021
FOR MID-SINGLES: THE MOTE AND THE BEAM

Published in Meridian Magazine "For Mid-Singles: The Mote and the Beam" By Jeff Teichert · November 15, 2021  Jesus asked: “[W]hy beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote […]

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October 29, 2021
"WHY WON'T ANYONE GIVE ME A CHANCE?"

We discuss this sentiment at some length in "Intentional Courtship," which we will be releasing on November 5th. I have seen various comments of this kind on social media probably hundreds of times since I became a mid-single about 13 years ago. The comment usually comes from men. Before I answer the question, I want […]

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July 9, 2021
ABOUT MEETING PEOPLE AND MAKING DATES

On our recent trip to New York, Cathy and I met another middle-aged couple on the air train and had some good conversation. Their kids had given them this trip to New York for their 50th birthdays. They were still thinking about what they wanted to do in the city for the 4th of July. […]

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