How often have you heard variations of the following statements? "No woman will give me a chance." "There are no real men who will step up in relationships." "There are way more suitable single women then men, so there aren't enough good men to go around." "Women only want a man with good looks and […]
Seven years ago this St. Patrick's Day, Cathy posted a selfie wearing a green shirt emblazoned with a shamrock and the words, "Looking for my Lucky Charm." That day, her eternal companion entered her life. Jeff saw her post and sent her a friend request. We became Facebook friends on St. Patrick's in 2016 so St. […]
Many people say time heals all wounds. We say bunk! Passively waiting for a period of time without any concentration on growth isn't going to heal you at all. Jeff has a friend who was divorced two years prior to Jeff's divorce. He has been single for approximately 12 years and is still telling his […]
In July 2015, the Arbinger Institute published, "The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict. The fundamental premise of the book is that our hearts are either at war with each other or at peace, and that peace in our hearts creates peace in the home, the community, and the world. A heart at […]
We all know singles in their late 20s, 30s, 40s or beyond who would like to be married but haven’t yet been blessed with the opportunity. We’ve also known singles who have had the opportunity to marry but things didn’t go as planned and it resulted in an unexpected marital loss through the untimely death […]
For me, the loneliness began before the formal separation as I watched my former wife disconnect and disengage. We lived in the same house, on different floors, for about 18 months. It created a toxic atmosphere that I found depleting both emotionally and physically. After I moved out of our home, it occurred to me […]
The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman took America by storm in 1992 and its influence continues to spread. According to Dr. Chapman, the premise of the book is that, "What makes one person feel loved will not make another person feel loved. We must discover and speak each other's love language." The idea […]
A reader of my weekly column in Meridian Magazine recently wrote in asking for "an article regarding the men/women that are left behind after many years of marriage. A stage that many of us have never gone [through] before of being alone." It's a good question. For me, the loneliness actually began before the formal […]
Sexuality can be a sensitive topic for singles. It can feel like a balancing act to wisely manage our God-given sexual natures, while abstaining from sex when unmarried. The subject of sex or sexuality often arises in our Latter-day Saint and larger Christian culture in reference to sexual sin, which can create fear. We may believe […]
