As we officially move into autumn, the world is changing. The kids have gone back to school. Summer vacations and adventures are over. The air is starting to cool. Halloween and Thanksgiving are around the corner. Autumn is a time of reflection. We think of the past with a certain amount of nostalgia. When Jeff […]
This is a question asked by many who have reached their 30s or 40s without marrying. It is also asked by many who are divorced or widowed. For the divorced, they once believed the search was over, and they were glad to be done with the dating game. Some believed they had gotten really lucky […]
Many women told me during my mid-single years that confidence in a man was sexy. I believe there is a survival function in female attraction to a confident man. A bold and confident man is a good protector and is more likely to discourage potential attackers and predators. The problem with this wisdom is that, […]
A reader of my weekly column in Meridian Magazine recently wrote in asking for "an article regarding the men/women that are left behind after many years of marriage. A stage that many of us have never gone [through] before of being alone." It's a good question. For me, the loneliness actually began before the formal […]
There is a whole chapter in Intentional Courtship (which will be released tomorrow, November 5th!) entitled "Online Dating: the Wild West of Mid-Single Life." In January of the year 1540, a little bit before the invention of the internet, England's King Henry VIII married his fourth wife, the German princess Anne of Cleves from Dusseldorf. […]
One of the things I most commonly hear from mid-singles is, "I hate dating." Hey, I understand. Getting dressed nice and going out for a lovely meal at a restaurant with an attractive member of the opposite sex must be pure torture! All kidding aside, why don't people like dating? (1) They don't like the […]
We've all done it. You are finally on that date with that special person you've been wanting to get to know when he or she states an opinion that you don't agree with. You nod and pretend to agree, even though in your heart you don't. What about the guy who hears an attractive woman […]
When Cathy and I were writing Intentional Courtship, one of our beta readers cautioned me about how much to use the word "beautiful," because love and marriage are not only for the beautiful people. Point taken. Having said this, I think the person you marry ought to be beautiful to you. What I want for […]
On our recent trip to New York, Cathy and I met another middle-aged couple on the air train and had some good conversation. Their kids had given them this trip to New York for their 50th birthdays. They were still thinking about what they wanted to do in the city for the 4th of July. […]
