There comes a crossroads moment in every dating relationship where the relationship needs to become exclusive and move toward marriage or transition to friendship and discontinue dating each other. These are the most difficult decisions we face in dating. Each person will have his or her own set of considerations that are most important in […]
We discuss this sentiment at some length in "Intentional Courtship," which we will be releasing on November 5th. I have seen various comments of this kind on social media probably hundreds of times since I became a mid-single about 13 years ago. The comment usually comes from men. Before I answer the question, I want […]
As many of you know, Cathy and I both had brief second marriages following lengthy first marriages. In one case, the prior marriage was to someone who stonewalled (simply shut down and refused to talk about anything difficult or stressful). This is one of the Gottman's "Four Horsemen of the Marriage Apocalypse." After that kind […]
When Cathy and I were writing Intentional Courtship, one of our beta readers cautioned me about how much to use the word "beautiful," because love and marriage are not only for the beautiful people. Point taken. Having said this, I think the person you marry ought to be beautiful to you. What I want for […]
Many of us may assume at times that positive people have life handed to them, that they are positive because their circumstances are favorable. But perhaps it is just as much the other way around--that their circumstances are favorable because they are positive people. Positive people tend to attract positive circumstances. They also tend to […]
The mid-single community is made up of unique and diverse men and women with interesting life stories. However, we have observed at least one thing that almost all mid-singles have in common. They are survivors. Virtually every mid-single we have known has a story of profound loss—whether it is the passing of a beloved spouse, […]
"Once in awhile, right in the middle of an ordinary life, love comes along and brings you a fairytale." We were living ordinary lives as single parents until we finally found each other. And even then, it wasn't a typical fairy tale but we love our love story anyway. What we felt was missing before […]
HaPpY SaiNt PaTriCkS DaY!!! Here's a fun little story about luck in finding love. This photo was taken 5 years ago, when Cathy was a mid single, actively looking for her "lucky charm." I vividly remember the moment when I took this selfie on March 17, 2016. Intending to share it on singles pages, I […]
Can you imagine finding both romantic love and the best of friendship in one person? We finally did, but it took us a lot of years and a great deal of patience to find each other and to create that desired balance in our relationship once we did. Being able to imagine anything you want […]
