April 18, 2024
LILY Letter 157: Unlocking Happiness with Thought Work

We are excited to share our unique approach to thought work, which can significantly impact your journey towards healing and happiness. It is designed to help you sort out your thoughts more intentionally and make choices that lead to a more fulfilling life. The F-SWEEBO framework consists of the following elements: 1. **Facts**: We start by […]

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February 29, 2024
LILY Letter 151: The Stewardship to Heal What's Hurting

Sometimes people get divorced hoping to escape the pain that is inside of them. You may be one of these people, or perhaps were married to one. The problem with this thinking is that the pain lives inside of you, so you take it with you wherever you go. It isn't somehow transferred from another person […]

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February 14, 2024
LILY Letter 149: Love and Agency

As Valentine's Day has come once again, did you feel like you had a meaningful opportunity to celebrate a great relationship? Or did you think about one more year of singleness with a twinge of bitter longing? Did you perhaps, even let the holiday pass almost without notice and just try to avoid the whole […]

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August 22, 2023
LILY Letter 124: The Gift of Agency

Have you ever thought about the word "agency"? Would you be surprised to know that it does not appear anywhere in the Bible? King James ascended to the throne of England in 1603 and the King James version of the Bible was published in 1611. The word agency did not appear in the English language […]

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March 14, 2023
LILY Letter 101: Happy St. Patrick's!

Seven years ago this St. Patrick's Day, Cathy posted a selfie wearing a green shirt emblazoned with a shamrock and the words, "Looking for my Lucky Charm." That day, her eternal companion entered her life. Jeff saw her post and sent her a friend request. We became Facebook friends on St. Patrick's in 2016 so St. […]

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January 16, 2023
EXPECTATIONS AND RELATIONSHIPS

I recently met a single dad who, when asked his parenting philosophy said, “expectations.” I think many, if not most parents would say the same. We have expectations of all kinds in life. I work at my job, and I expect to be paid and paid on time. I sacrifice food I might like to […]

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May 24, 2022
LILY Letter 59: Adjusting to Being Single Again

For me, the loneliness began before the formal separation as I watched my former wife disconnect and disengage. We lived in the same house, on different floors, for about 18 months. It created a toxic atmosphere that I found depleting both emotionally and physically. After I moved out of our home, it occurred to me […]

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May 19, 2022
LEADERSHIP AND SINGLE MEN

As a man, you are responsible to step forward and be a leader, in the home, the church, the workplace and the community—and in your search for an eternal companion. You have a responsibility to lead in righteousness, but not the privilege to pull rank—EVER! Leading in the Lord’s way (whether you are a man […]

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May 17, 2022
LILY Letter 58: Faith Crisis and the Dark Side of Agency

One of the most important things divorcees understand that many other people don't to the same degree is that agency has a dark side. It is wonderful when we make choices in relationships that lead to happiness and success. It is miserable when others make decisions that hurt us and we have no say in […]

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