We've heard so many single adults say "I hate dating." Why is that? Perhaps there are as many answers as there are people. But I think they all come down to something deep in our nature that dislikes being judged. And dating gives you more opportunities to be judged than almost anything else. When we […]

Is there any part of you that is waiting to be rescued by a relationship? Many singles carry heavy burdens and it can be tempting to think the answer is to have a relationship with someone who will help with child responsibilities, household chores, and money. What's wrong with that? While it may be understandable […]

When it comes to dating, Jeff and I have discussed the pitfalls of seeing and focusing on "red flags" in our book "Intentional Courtship" and on our "LILY Pod" podcast. Our friend Sheri Braithwaite from Dating Olympics posted this diagram in her Thriving Singles' Community. We LOVE this because it emphasizes a much more helpful focus in a […]

Cathy and I had an instant bond--though it took us a long time to figure out what we were going to mean to each other. Looking back, I won the lottery on Saint Patrick's Day 5 years ago. Sometimes we meet kindred spirits and we know they are meant to play a part in our […]

We celebrated our anniversary this past weekend by treating ourselves to LIVE theater for the first time since Covid shut it down. Desert Star's first show opening back up was "Harry Poppins," a fun spoof on Harry Potter, Mary Poppins, and even Star Wars. Cathy knew their amazing pianist (Tracy) from back in her pageant […]

Yesterday Cathy and I went to lunch as part of celebrating our third anniversary. I remarked to her that one of the advantages of being a divorcee is that I take our marriage less for granted. I got married the first time when I was 26 years old. We had a child 11 months later. […]