One of the most important things divorcees understand that many other people don't to the same degree is that agency has a dark side. It is wonderful when we make choices in relationships that lead to happiness and success. It is miserable when others make decisions that hurt us and we have no say in […]
The suicide rate in America increased by 24 percent from 2000-2014. The rate is so high now that it has actually decreased the average life expectancy by 3 years. It is the 7th leading cause of death for men and 14th for women. About 50,000 people, an entire small city, die by suicide every year […]
The 2006 movie "The Holiday" is available on Netflix for one more week. I had the chance to watch it again with Cathy recently. It strikes me that this movie contains some themes that are particularly relevant to this group. The film involves four mid-single adults trying to find their way. Amanda Woods (Cameron Diaz) […]
Cathy and I recently presented at the Fall Conference of the Foundation for Family Life of Utah. While there, we met a man on the lunch-time panel who had spent most of his life in business. He told us that the secret to successful selling is the same as the secret to successful dating. "Make […]
One of the most difficult things to accept when I got divorced was that someone I had lived with for 15 years, loved, shared a home and a bed with, taken vacations with, spent Christmases with, and raised children with didn't want me anymore. If someone could feel the way she did about me, knowing […]
Intentional Courtship: A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace, Progress and Pairing Up in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is divided up into 3 sections. “Part Two: Progress—Adventures in Dating” includes the middle six chapters, which focus on the beginning of intentionally courting to find your future and forever companion. When we each went […]
Lately, I have been hearing a lot about people feeling jealous and left out when they see social media posts about their friends off having fun with other friends at events they were not invited to. I knew this was a near obsession among some of our youth, but was surprised to hear that many […]
It is a self-evident truth that, in the realm of human relationships, agency will always create the opportunity for truly irreconcilable differences. During our long-term marriages, we believed we would always be able to think of an acceptable alternative to divorce, no matter what problem arose. However, in both of our cases, the decision was our spouse's. At […]
I recently posted a film review in this group about the movie "Bye Bye Love," a comedy about three divorced men. In this little clip from the film, we see one of the men (Vic) on a blind date with a beautiful but neurotic partner named "Lucille" who takes offense to everything he says, takes […]
