December 19, 2023
LILY Letter 141: Wrapping Up the New Testament

Early on in our courtship, Jeff referred to us as "New Testament" Mormons (before President Nelson asked that we become more deliberate about using the official name of the church). Cathy had never come up with that name for her approach to membership in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, but it seemed […]

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October 31, 2023
LILY Letter 134: Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy

This week we have a special holiday treat for you! Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins us for a very special Halloween themed interview on "Overcoming the FEAR of Intimacy." She is a relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology who teaches LDS couples and individuals how to strengthen their relationships, overcome relational and […]

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January 24, 2023
LILY Letter 94: Sunshine for 2023

Our first interview this year is with Sunshine Harston, who sheds some incredible light on her own personal experience with divorce, death of a spouse, and now being remarried with a blended family and bonus children. She has referred to some of her greatest losses as "beautiful heartbreak." We have pondered that in the wake […]

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September 20, 2022
LILY Letter 76: Flexibility with Formulas & Following the Spirit

Throughout the ages, mankind has been taking note of various social practices and coming up with clever sayings that seem fitting. Some of these sayings become formulas that people subscribe to because they encapsulate the wisdom of the ages. While we see the wisdom behind many of these formulas, we also value personal revelation for […]

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April 26, 2022
LILY Letter 55: Being Whole as a Single Person

Is there any part of you that is waiting to be rescued by a relationship? Many singles carry heavy burdens and it can be tempting to think the answer is to have a relationship with someone who will help with child responsibilities, household chores, and money. What's wrong with that? While it may be understandable […]

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April 18, 2022
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE SPOUSE

I am a devoted listener of my friend, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. I think anyone interested in a better marital relationship or personal development could benefit from her perspective. The issues she discusses are highly sensitive and, therefore, highly impactful. She often discusses the dynamic between a low desire partner and a high desire partner as […]

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April 12, 2022
LILY Letter 53: Living True to Inspiration

Life offers a plethora of "loud voices" that can deter us from divine guidance and inspiration. By loud voices, I mean naysayers, haters, and those who put us down or lash out because they are hurting. These voices seem loud and can easily drown out all the supportive voices that counter them because our human […]

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March 8, 2022
LILY Letter 48: Sexuality for Singles

Sexuality can be a sensitive topic for singles. It can feel like a balancing act to wisely manage our God-given sexual natures, while abstaining from sex when unmarried. The subject of sex or sexuality often arises in our Latter-day Saint and larger Christian culture in reference to sexual sin, which can create fear. We may believe […]

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March 1, 2022
LILY Letter 47: What is Real Love?

Jesus said, ”Whosoever drinketh of this water shall thirst again: But whosoever drinketh of the water that I shall give him shall never thirst; but the water that I shall give him shall be in him a well of water springing up into everlasting life" (John 4:13-14). Real love is that pure Christlike love that […]

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